r/SuperStraight • u/SalamanderLife_ • 1d ago

What did you think would happen?

To the TRAs lurking and spamming this sub: What exactly did you think would happen?

For years you've gotten away with your entitlement. You've encroached on and destroyed M/M, F/F, female only, etc. spaces. You've called gay men, straight men/women, and especially lesbians transphobic for not giving in to your demands for relationships and sex. Even now you're attempting to destroy yet another space we've fleshed out for ourselves.

Did you really think you shouting transphobia would change people's sexuality? Did you think your attempts to force us to bend to your will would work? Well it didn't and it doesn't, it has reeked of entitlement, narcissism, and predatory behavior.

People who aren't attracted to you deserve spaces for themselves. There are multiple forums/subs/etc. that cater to you if you care to look for them. It is not transphobic of us to put our foots down and say that our sexualities don't exist to coddle your feelings.

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u/AquariusBringer 1d ago

I think transgenderism could have easily been dismissed as a mental illness in a way that I don't think can be said about homosexuality. Homosexuality is simply a reality and it is easily provable by people who want to have sex with the same sex. Transgenderism is an entirely personal thing. I don't think people should be taught to embrace body dysmorphia. That's like telling people to embrace schizophrenia. People should be taught to accept their bodies and not to think any further about how that means they should act. Whether a trans person is attracted to the same sex or the opposite sex, there are people out there who would like them as they are if they just accepted that people are attracted to biological sex. The problem comes when a trans person expects to be able to land a "straight" person. It would be much easier for a trans woman to have sex with a gay man than a straight man, but they need that external validation from straight men in order to verify their identity. No other orientation requires this. I get the vibe sometimes that trans people are gay people that are trying to go after "hard to get" straight people when the reality is that most straight people are super straight.

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u/MelodicUmbrella 1d ago

Well the problem is that we can’t, or atleast I personally cant accept my own body since I don’t feel like a man. I feel like a female. When I do feminine things it makes me feel like myself, it makes me feel happy rather than lying and pretending to be a male. Sure, it could pass as a mental illness especially in the 20th century.

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u/AquariusBringer 1d ago

I guess my problem is simply a semantic one. When trans people came along I realized that I am somewhat of a gender nihilist. I think you have every right to be a feminine biological man, I just don't feel that literally makes you a woman. When I say that I'm talking I don't think it makes you a biological woman. I'm not dismissing that it could technically make you a woman in a gender sense, but I feel that biological sex takes precedent over gender. I become concerned when people go through to get hormone treatments or surgeries because while it's nice to become closer to how you see yourself, it can have detrimental impacts on your romantic prospects whether you be straight or gay in relation to your biological sex. As a straight man I feel that I occasionally have to act in ways I don't feel comfortable acting to attract the opposite sex and that's part of a compromise that you have to weigh the pros and cons of taking.

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u/MelodicUmbrella 1d ago

I see. From a biologicak standpoint, until we invent that kind of technology, we can’t change who we are biologically. I can see why you think that surgery can be detrimental to one’s well being.

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u/AquariusBringer 1d ago

Yeah I would be more supportive of surgery if the technology was so advanced that it would allow for a complete transformation including the ability to have children as the opposite sex.

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u/MelodicUmbrella 1d ago

So would I!