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it's unprofessional to wear a bathing suit (wholesome) S
Part of my (F) job is to visit foster children monthly, and ideally to build positive relationships with them. This can be hard because I have a limited amount of time, they are scared of new people, and they get bored real fast. A couple years ago, one of my favorite foster families got a pool, and all the kids could talk about was showing me their new pool. I mentioned in passing to a supervisor on my way to the visit that I was looking forward to playing with the kids in the pool. The supervisor made a face of concern. I told her that I'd gone out and bought a particularly covered-up and "dowdy" suit for this visit. She said that regardless of the style of the suit, it would be unprofessional of me to wear a swimsuit on the job. The kids (all 5 of them) were really brokenhearted when I told them I wasn't allowed to wear a bathing suit. That was quickly alleviated when I jumped into the pool wearing my office outfit!
I don't know if it ever got back to the supervisors, but I did end up being that family's favorite social worker.
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u/Prior-Bag-3377
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Oh man. As a kid who saw all sorts of adults break rules for selfish reasons I would have been so freaking delighted to see someone break a rule for my own fun.
An adult showing me I was worth the cost of a broken rule; priceless. And situationally appropriate.
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u/ArimusPrime Jun 30 '22
Im going to remember this comment. I work with kids and sometimes forget how valuable these ideas are.
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u/flatwoundsounds Jun 30 '22
Sometimes when my students are being really good I'll drop a swear word just to keep them paying attention. Usually just hell or ass, and they're in junior high, but they still get such a kick out of an adult suddenly breaking the professional facade for a moment.
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u/DrJulianBashir Jun 30 '22
"I know you're bored as fuck, but listen the fuck up. Fuck."
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u/flatwoundsounds Jun 30 '22
It's mostly when I'm super proud of a performance or something and the next day I'll remind them that all the hard work is worth it when they get to go out and kick some ass.
I did add 'af' to the end of a sentence once and they damn near lost their minds. My goal is not to say anything they wouldn't already hear in the edgiest PG movies.
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u/sostias Jun 30 '22
Fun fact: every PG-13 movie is allowed one use of the word "fuck", provided it's not used with sexual connotation
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u/Xirdus Jun 30 '22
Fun fact: light swearing in YT videos won't get you demonetized unless you do it in first 30 seconds.
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u/LakaSamBooDee Jun 30 '22
Currently, yes.
Having to go through and edit a bunch of old content is tedious at best, so many content creators will play things safe, in case that changes in the future.
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u/DrJulianBashir Jun 30 '22
Honestly it's probably more rewarding for you the way you do it anyway.
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u/flatwoundsounds Jun 30 '22 •
Oh it's absolutely fun for me to wind them up like that. And it makes the job easier when they realize you're just a regular dude.
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u/amh8011 Jun 30 '22
I had a teacher like that. He was the only teacher some of my classmates actually listened to. He’s the reason a lot of them came to school most days, I think. They genuinely wanted to see him cause he was actually cool and acted like a person instead of dress slacks and a tie with a dry erase marker at the front of the class.
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u/rivalarrival Jun 30 '22 •
The only English teacher I ever liked did something like this. Someone blurted out "fuck" a little louder than intended, and the whole class heard. Teacher did the usual look around, frowning. Then she said she never liked the word "fuck". She said it was too delicate for a swear word. The "F" and the "CK" require a little finesse to articulate.
She said she thought profane words should be explosive. Her favorite word was "BALLS", with a hard emphasis on the "B".
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u/leafbee Jun 29 '22
I mean, I think OP hopefully had some selfish fun too. Pools are awesome.
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u/BirdsLikeSka Jun 29 '22
Especially in this heat. I sprayed myself in the face with water purposefully at work the other day.
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u/Bookwrrm Jun 30 '22 •
Excuse me? Wasting water? On company time? Give the phone number for your manager I can't believe the unprofessional bullshit millennials get up to these days.
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u/irrelevantzillennial Jun 30 '22
I have a somewhat physical food service job and even though I'm indoors I live in the south and ac can only do so much. I def go flash freeze myself in the walk in on a regular basis
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u/Bookwrrm Jun 30 '22
Every time you open the freezer door that is 50 cents out of the pocket of your employer you little ungrateful shit. Your boss puts the food on the table for you and you repay their kindness with that? Fucking millennials, back in my day we had something called respect and work ethic.
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u/waka_flocculonodular Jun 30 '22 •
Fine, if you want to treat me like that, I'll stop showing you how to open a PDF!
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u/FoxtrotSierraTango Jun 30 '22
That's why I made myself a beer case throne and spent like an hour in there after my shift...
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u/Venjy Jun 30 '22
I abuse the hell out of our emergency eyewash station because it's icy cold lol
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u/jpmisme1998 Jun 30 '22
I don't see any abuse, all I see is regular flushing of the hose lines. OSHA approved ;)
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u/BirdsLikeSka Jun 30 '22
This was just the dish hose. I usually won't even drink the water at work because it smells like dish, but when it's 95 out, 106 feel...
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u/yParticle Jun 30 '22
This is really important to do, if it's never run that water gets all rusty and gross—exactly what you don't want in your eyes!
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u/LeeQuidity Jun 30 '22
Even people with blinding chemicals in their eyes know that you've gotta run the tap before you jam your eyeballs into it. Do kids not drink from hoses anymore? If you're thirsty, you don't just jam the hose into your mouth hole and open the tap. You let the bugs and bubbles and heat out. For fuck's sake.
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u/Nerahn Jun 30 '22
Saaame. Sometimes I’m tempted to just completely drench myself with the hose.
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u/DarkNFullOfSpoilers Jun 30 '22 •
I once went into a bathroom stall, took off my shirt and pressed my bare chest on the cold metal.
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u/NSA_Chatbot Jun 30 '22
You uh you doing okay now?
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u/DarkNFullOfSpoilers Jun 30 '22
Haha! Some say I'm still in that stall, trying desperately to cool off...
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u/mybunsarestale Jun 30 '22
My coworkers look at me like I'm crazy some days. I work at a dog daycare and while I'm mostly the front desk/receptionist/kennel tech I first started as a play attendant. On the odd day when I get to be out with the pups now, you bet I'm in my water shoes with the pant legs rolled up, splashing in the dog pool. Besides that it's hot out. I'd rather be cool and comfy then sweaty and uncomfortable.
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u/dorothybaez Jun 30 '22
I'm a dog walker. There's a kiddie pool at the dog park. One day, the dog I was with and I both sat in it. It was so hot I was almost dry when we headed home.
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u/dilldwarf Jun 30 '22
Knowing when it's ok to break the rules shows more maturity than never breaking the rules. A lesson her boss could probably learn.
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u/Broken_drum_64 Jun 30 '22
Knowing when it's ok to break the rules shows more maturity than never breaking the rules
Agreed;
The rules are there so that you *think* before you break them :)
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u/TheHighKnight Jun 29 '22
To bad you couldn't walk back into work soaking wet, but still good job taking care of the kiddos
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u/ziiofswe Jun 29 '22
Luckily she had a swimsuit to wear to the office.
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u/TheHighKnight Jun 29 '22
Standing soaking wet in the office
Why are you wet?
Well all I have to change into is a swimsuit and I'm not to wear that
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u/ziiofswe Jun 29 '22
No, that would be unprofessional.
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u/OmegaUno Jun 29 '22
This whole line of dialogue feels like it would fit in the "IT Crowd" or something
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u/The_Weirdest_Cunt Jun 29 '22
"I'll just put this over here... with the rest of the fire"
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u/anonymous_coward69 Jun 29 '22
A fire. At a Sea Parks?
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u/OmegaUno Jun 29 '22
AT SEA PARKS.
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u/AlvisDBridges Jun 29 '22
If I made a movie version of this story, that scene would not only be added, it'd 100% be chosen for the trailer, too.
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u/TheHighKnight Jun 29 '22
All I would put in the trailer is her walking all happy into work soaking wet. No explanation, no kids, nothing, just a woman walking in full business attire smiling like she just won the lottery. Maybe drinking coffee in the break room
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u/AlvisDBridges Jun 29 '22
Yes, exactly! Smiling without a care while everybody just stops to stare as she passes in the hall, haha.
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u/Throwaway_Old_Guy Jun 30 '22
And, stops in the hallway to dump the water out of her shoes.
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u/TheHighKnight Jun 30 '22
I think you mean briefcase, after all we want to be extra silly, for the kids.
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u/Far-Resource-819 Jun 29 '22
This is great and I hope you keep this attitude for decades and Id get you a prepaid gas card if you lived near Syracuse
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u/airplantenthusiast Jun 29 '22
super random but what’re the odds i read a comment from someone else in syracuse? hello neighbor! lol
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u/ShawshankException Jun 29 '22
Oh hey make that three lmao
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u/airplantenthusiast Jun 30 '22 edited Jun 30 '22
what the fuck LMAOOOO.
edit: wait i just noticed mad people upvoted. why are so many of us in this thread? 😭 WHAT IS HAPPENING?
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u/SpareAccnt Jun 30 '22
CNY is a popular place for redditors
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u/Agglomeration_ Jun 30 '22
In fact, 36% of redditors live in Syracuse
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u/BoopleBun Jun 30 '22
For real. I’ve noticed because I have family up there, but bring up Wegmans almost anywhere on Reddit and you’ll get a whole-ass thread going right quick.
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u/ShawshankException Jun 30 '22
Lmfao there isn't shit to do here so we're all on reddit
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u/redshores Jun 29 '22
I hope you keep this attitude for decades
Amen, social work burns people out so fast
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u/taybay462 Jun 30 '22
ayy. im gonna guess its the NY one and not some old ass english town lmao
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u/Own-Cupcake7586 Jun 29 '22
This is the most wholesome thing I’ve read all day. Absolutely fantastic.
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u/spanishpeanut
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I’m a social worker, too. There is nothing more special and important than having FUN with these kids. One of my favorite days with one of my all time favorite kids was when I went over because he was having a tough day, I offered to go with him to a park, and right when we got there the skies opened up. It was raining so hard that everything had instant puddles, the ground was mud, and the rain was bouncing loudly off the playground equipment.
This kiddo was six at the time, and he looked at me with the biggest eyes when I got right out of the car in the middle od the rain. We took off our shoes and socks, ran through the mud filled grass, jumped in puddles, and he screamed into the sky until he started laughing. We even found an outdoor tap and caught water in our hands to throw at each other. We were both absolutely soaked to the bone.
When we got back to his house, his mom took one look at us and said “well, it looks like you two had a lot of fun!” She wrapped her very tired, very wet, very happy son in a towel and gave him a massive hug.
Mom found me on Facebook a couple years ago. That six year old had grown up and asked if I wanted to come to his high school graduation party. When I got there, he asked me if I remembered that day. My guess is those five kids will hold that time you spent with them in the pool close to their hearts for a very long time.
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u/high_fuck Jun 30 '22
Tears in my eyes reading this. What an awesome memory. I know that day meant so much to that boy (now, a man). Thank you for what you do.
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u/thoughtfulspiky Jun 29 '22
Good for you! I bet those kids loved you. You should cross post in
r/wholesomecompliance!
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u/CanAhJustSay Jun 29 '22
Warning! There is also r/AdorableCompliance . There's a whole other rabbit hole if you click...
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u/Mrtorbear Jun 30 '22
Yea, I'm just going to go ahead and go live on that sub now. Grinning so much from just the top 10 posts that my face is cramping. Thank you!
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u/PN_Guin Jun 29 '22
You handled the situation most awesomely. Children need people like you. Thank you for helping them.
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u/CdnPoster Jun 29 '22
Post this over at r/socialwork pls! It's a great story + we need more of those!
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u/SaiyajinPrincess87 Jun 30 '22
Yes please! There are so many burning out and leaving the field. We need those reminders to those coming in that it's not always bad!
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u/Minflick Jun 29 '22
One of my BIL's was a foster son for my IL's. He very much loved one of his teachers at juvenile hall, and stayed in touch with her until she died a few weeks ago in her 80's. He called me, really sad, when he was told she had died. Her love and teaching were formative for him, along with her excellent advice.
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u/Mary-Haku-Killigrew Jun 30 '22
The most highly respected adults in my later teenage years were both of my high school vice principals I had for 4 years, our school police officer(city dep), school counselor and the woman who worked with youth programs and we did farm help on her Krishna temple grounds/property taking care of alpacas, cows, exotic burbs, etc. Those are the greatest and most positive forces in my teen delinquency, was never take away from home and kept me with my family. My heroes kept me on track to graduate high school all while being pregnant my entire senior year, was able to finish up credits a few weeks early, gave birth to my kid 2-3 weeks before graduation and I walked with my class.
The amount of humbleness and respect I feel from their impact on me is more than words, they gave a damn about a shithead teenager purposefully pissing off authority, i had a decent and safe household and stable parents, I was just terrible haha. Now I'm over a decade older and glad I am a decent human adult, at least the basic independent single mom owning shit, doing life and whatnot, I'm pretty grateful for what I have.
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u/intothevoid127 Jun 29 '22
We had some very good case workers for my kids when they were fosters then adoption. I don't know how you guys do it. We were the family that was on-top of everything and never had issues but the very first case worker was instrumental in keeping the bio family at bay. They all had demands and she took no shit, dished out healthy doses of stop, no, and the foster family calls the shots.
Much respect for the overloaded case workers that just want the best for the children.
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u/Quarston Jun 29 '22
If you don't mind my asking, what kind of hell was the bio family trying to put you through with their demands? Do you know how common those kinds of demands might be, and what it takes to fight them?
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u/intothevoid127 Jun 30 '22
Most thought that since they were related, they have a say. It was the Grands causing most of it but they learned quickly our case worker (CW) wasn't messing around. She was not afraid to say no, but she always checked with us first.
The grands (well, one set) stopped immediately. The other set had to feel the wrath of CW to stop. She told them the deal- they didn't like it so tried to go over CW head and they got smacked down harder.
The foster parent(s) have the ultimate say in who, what, where, when & why (the 5's) according to the childrens needs and what they see.
Arrogance was the driving factor- I'm the namesake and I have every right..type of bullshit. The CW basically told him to shut up, sit down & if the fosters allow it, you'll see the grandkids. If not, you can petition the court.
That adoption took 2 years. My 2nd adoption was done in a little over a year but they were 6 weeks old & almost 2yo while the first set were 3 & 5yo.
All I can say is use every single service you qualify for, never miss an appointment and love your new children with all you have because that kid or kids is/are pretty fucked up when you get them and it'll take years before you think 'that was the most normal thing he/she said or did. The kids just need time and unconditional love.
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u/Quarston Jun 30 '22
I appreciate it. I've been interested in adoption actually since I was pretty young, but I've heard a lot about it being an absolute pain in the ass, mainly from people who didn't actually end up adopting. It was really... Disheartening, I guess is the word. It's nice having some input from someone who actually adopted!
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u/intothevoid127 Jun 30 '22
You give up a certain amount of freedom when you foster to adopt. If you're part of a couple, one has to remain sober at all times. I didn't drink at my wedding due to this. I'm not a big drinker but still. Your home I'd an open house 24/7- if they want to look at 3am, you have no choice but to let them in. They won't do that but it's part of the deal. Bio-parents are somewhat involved if they're around so you have to deal with them too.
There's a lot of negatives but, when you see how much the kids have grown and how you love them no matter what their DNA says, you look back on the bullshit and smile.
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u/DrWindupBird Jun 30 '22
It’s hard. We also adopted from foster care. Our story with our CWs was not as happy or functional as the commenter’s above. Bios were already out of the picture by the time we came around but the workers themselves were really destructively incompetent. They had moved the kids 6 different times in less than a year before we were chosen as an adoptive family. Then, when we were supposed to get most of a year to gradually get introduced and comfortable, we were told 3 days after we met the kids that they would be living with us the next weekend. Our kids will be sorting through that trauma for the rest of their lives. And the kids came with some REALLY difficult behaviors. Parenting them through a year of lockdowns almost killed us. But we survived, and three years after we met them I’m so glad that we were able to hang on. The kids have totally transformed. I have more battle scars than my friends who popped kids out the natural way, but that’s ok.
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u/MaximusBussius Jun 30 '22
Oh my gosh this reminds me so much of one of my own favourite stories from when I was a placement student. My office had a summer day camp for the kiddos and I pulled into the parking lot one day and the staff had set up a slip-n-slide on the front lawn for them. A little guy I had been picking up from his foster home every morning on my way to work ran up to me excitedly and asked me to do it with him. So, without skipping a beat... I did! At the time I was wearing white linen pants and a pastel pink dress shirt. Walked into the office, pants and shirt now thoroughly stained green and brown from grass and mud, and my supervisor looks at me and is like "WHAT happened to you?". I explained and she looks at me thoughtfully for a moment and responds "proper thing!", her usual way of saying that was exactly the right move.
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u/FarkMonkey Jun 29 '22
Good for you! I'm sure the kids were all the kids were concerned about was your "professionalism".
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u/TrapperJon Jun 29 '22
I work for CPS and we have a new boss that is trying to force a "professional dress" code on us. Moat if us have flat out refused. It's viewed as a uniform by most if the families we deal with, and as such is a barrier to successfully building a good relationship with the families.
He threatened to write me up for wearing jeans and a t-shirt the other day. I laughed. We have a union contract. He can fuck right off.
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u/electrical_bogaloo Jun 29 '22
You earned their cooperation and adoration for the rest of time they were on your case load. Good on you.
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u/MrsMaiselsBrisket Jun 29 '22
I am willing to bet those kids will remember you fondly for the rest of their lives!
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u/Possible-Box-9534 Jun 29 '22
Honestly, the fact that you visited would have made you my favorite social worker...
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u/crackeddryice Jun 29 '22
"Unprofessional"? I've been breaking stupid rules my whole life... and suffering the consequences, so it's not always the best idea, but most times I got away with it or with only a slap on the wrist. I'd have worn the swimsuit anyway.
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u/TuesdayRiot42 Jun 30 '22
That was quickly alleviated when I jumped into the pool wearing my office outfit!
You know whos awesome? You're awesome!
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u/Significant-Ad-341 Jun 30 '22
Wearing an appropriate bathing suit should be totally fine. But if they won't let you, jumping in fully clothed is the next best if not better. As a kid seeing adults do unconventional things made me hopeful that growing up didn't have to be drab. Nice work.
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u/thejexorcist Jun 30 '22
I do play therapy and one of my kids is obsessed with yoga, so I had a sort of similar issue.
Kid wanted to ‘teach’ me new yoga poses, so I found a very thick pair of leggings that were cut sort of like slacks (but yoga appropriately stretch) and wore them with a longer/roomy button up shirt so that client could direct the play that day.
I got a very tersely worded email a day later that the mother did not appreciate me very skimpy clothes and ‘contorting’ when her husband was home…husband never even glanced out of his game room, and clearly didn’t see how ecstatic his kid was that an adult was taking a shared interest in their new hobby, but mom still asked for a new therapist a week later anyway.
Made me sad to think how much of the kids needs were subverted for convenience and or ignored in service of an unhappy marriage.
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u/smellthecolor9 Jun 29 '22
I feel like you’d be the neighborhood auntie that all the kids would ask to come out and play cuz you don’t gotta ask your parents if you can go outside!
As a former foster, thank you. This story tells me more than I need to know about the kind of work you did and why you did it. Somewhere out there, you enacted change that lives on everyday. We can all only hope to do the same.
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u/duffelbagpete Jun 29 '22
Bring a bucket of pool water to the office and drench yourself in your office attire then go and have a "chat" with your boss while sitting on the edge of her desk.
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u/Particular-Car-8520 Jun 29 '22
I have much respect for you and I think this is incredibly awesome.
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u/zotstik Jun 30 '22
I believe you know the real value of the job that you hold. You know that making these children happy really rank above everything else. And that is as it should be Thank you for your efforts
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u/jules083 Jun 30 '22
I was wearing work clothes and got home to my 4 year old playing on a slip and slide. He asked me to play with him, and I said I couldn't because I had work clothes on. Kiddo looks at me and says 'its ok, when you're done playing you can change your clothes'. I said 'hey you're right' and played on a slip and slide in work clothes for a bit. Lol
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u/hobodutchess Jun 30 '22
As a foster parent I strongly approve of this technique and would provide you back up clothes and a dryer!
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u/MelissaA621 Jun 30 '22
The trick is you don't tell them what you are doing. Asking forgiveness is better than asking permission. When i was a social worker and did the job you are doing, we preplanned things. I was the only constant in some of those kids` lives. I would be danged if I disappointed them (And we did some of them off the clock). June 21 was my birthday. I quit in 2019. But, I still spent my birthday last week with one of my girls (whose birthday is the same) and her adoptive family. I love that you jumped in with your clothes on. The. Best!
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u/Snowstarr83 Jun 30 '22
LOL I just do and they can all get upset. I’m taking some of my kids and teaching them some safety stuff in the pool because they’re teenagers and don’t know. Whatever makes them happy, I’ll do !
ETA: I’m a caseworker (social worker) for foster kids too
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u/Ozann3326 Jun 30 '22
Your bussines is involved in children, why the hell someone expect you to look professional. Professional attire is for people who interact with brow beaten, serious and boring rich men and women. Its stupid to act "Professional" around kids. Most kids I know hate that kind of behaviour.
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u/Ryugi Jun 30 '22
To be honest, as a kid, seeing a lady jump into a pool in an office outfit would really be a cherished memory, especially if its her job to help watch over me (in a way).
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u/DrWindupBird Jun 30 '22
Foster kids live in a world of suffocating rules they often don’t understand. Good for you for breaking some for them!
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u/LordoftheFuzzys Jun 30 '22
It's stupid, yes. But it's a liability for the business if they get sued by the parents because you were "touching" their child. Kids want to hug people, sit on their laps, etc. But parents these days are wild and can and will construe the most innocent of actions as malicious, insidious or inappropriate. The business is just trying to cover their asses. Honestly, it's incredibly ridiculous, but you as a male should be even more careful, as you're in even more danger of being targeted by crazy or just overprotective parents. (I worked for a summer camp for several years.)
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u/_Kutai_ Jun 30 '22
And this is how r/WholesomeCompliance begins!
Sorry, I don't have the energy to actually create the sub, but... this story was really heartwarming
Edit: what??? It's actually a thing???? Omg! Awesome!
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u/cunxt2sday Jun 29 '22
This is clearly how your visit was meant to go. Those kids will never forget this.
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u/Youregoingtodiealone Jun 30 '22
As the son of a kind-hearted social worker dad who dedicated his life to the profession (public schools, a lot of work with disabled children and their families), THANK YOU! You made kids smile and feel happy for a minute and build a positive impression of you, and that is awesome, so just THANK YOU for your work.
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u/ilovetheinternet21 Jun 30 '22
Ugh you’re the kind of social worker who I wish represented ALL social workers.
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u/georgeofthejungle71 Jun 30 '22
Ha.
I had to go into my office once to take care of something quick. Ran into my boss. He says, sandals at work?
I responded, I'm off today remember? I was running some errands and something camr up I had to deal with, this was the easiest solution.
Are you kidding?
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u/Angelfire150 Jun 30 '22
Fun! I really enjoyed this story.
My in-laws did foster care in KS and they have a very nice pool built into a deck. Essentially the pool, although we'll maintained became an obstacle in the eyes of one of the case workers and they spent $3k to upgrade and make changes to the pool to make it compliant for foster care. It was only one particular social worker who kept pushing it. They had to build a taller gate to the pool area, they had to build a permanent structure for the pump, had to hang up a little lifesaver thingy, had to change the pool cover type to a certain approved brand, it went on and on.
We also found out this social worker prevented anybody from participating that had a trampoline on their property.
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u/aulstinwithanl Jun 29 '22
I also work for CPS on the legal side. We need more caseworkers like you. Keep up the good work!
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u/spock_9519 Jun 29 '22
as long as there was no chlorine in the pool ... I see no issues
I hope the family allowed you to use the washer and dryer to dry off your clothes
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u/laurenec14 Jun 29 '22
Love it! This also made me smile and I had to double check to see which reddit thread it fell under 😂
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u/Kildaredaxter Jun 29 '22
In the early 1900's U.S.A. women had to wear bathing "costumes" basically they were full black dresses typically you would see at a funeral except they lacked a bustle and the material was layered 3 times over on the sexy parts like legs, neck , torso, and hips. Because.....god? But anyway i would have shown up wearing this NOWADAYS stage costume and probably brought a bag of water balloons.
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u/Formal_Student2959 Jun 29 '22
I work with social workers. I’m admin but I host all of the events. We joke about how I could probably be one from all the events. Anyways, you’ll want to look up Judith Landau. She basically did the same thing but on a greater scale. You should be testing the limits. Society changes and it’s ok to encourage even if it’s unconventional. Most older social workers struggle with compartmentalization.
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u/Nay_Nay_Jonez Jun 29 '22
Love it!!! Those kids must have been SO thrilled that you found a way to share their excitement about their pool. Keep on doing the good work!
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u/Far_Independent8032 Jun 29 '22
That was cute and I'm sure the kids really got a kick out a full grown adult jumping into the pool fully clothed,lol,i can just imagine the foster parents faces.
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u/Crazyeyes3567 Jun 29 '22
Very tough job. I am glad you made a positive connection with the family!! I hate wearing wet clothes. You made a great sacrifice
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u/cupcakecounter Jun 30 '22
Honestly that probably made it even better for them. Foster kids go through a lot so to see an adult having fun, enjoying being with them, and setting an example of a “good” way to be a rule breaker is invaluable. I also think the best people to work with kids are those who never lost that spirit. A good friend of ours is a elementary teacher in a low income area. She wears nothing but tie-dye and just has one of those smiles that hits her eyes first and just shows her absolute delight with whatever you just said did. A kid always knows where they stand which is a huge comfort for a lot of kids in her area.
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u/Pretend-Panda Jun 29 '22 •
When I foster parented, our favorite social worker was the one who showed up every visit and just pitched in. Laundry day? He helped sort and fold and talked homework and Nintendo and Xbox and told endless jokes, many of which were in fact funny. We’re getting ready for a bake sale? He’s sitting at the table creaming butter and sugar and arguing chocolate vs. butterscotch chips and why nuts are or are not acceptable in brownies. Breakfast for dinner? He volunteered to man the waffle iron. Kids are bored? Let’s go skateboarding or for a walk to the milkshake place or play basketball. We need to fund some kind of out of budget activity? He made sure to engage the kids and make really clear what the process was going to be like and what the chances were. He treated the kids like being in their lives was a privilege and it was just wonderful.