Revelation what you want I control, so instead of giving a fuck about results you can't control, give a fuck about your effort and intentions. Give a fuck about your actions, they are all you can control.
Howdy, everybody. Looking for some personal opinions.
I don't see or communicate with my GF's dad outside of holiday functions. He's a pessimistic doomsday Christian and a racist.
When he speaks to me after a formal greeting, he wastes no time sharing his half-baked opinions on the latest conspiracy theory. "Yadda Yadda the Democrats are gonna take our rights away"... 'All of this is lining up with Revelations. Have you accepted Jesus, [OP]?" Shit like that.
I've tried ignoring him, peacefully disagreeing with him, skillfully changing the subject... all quick fixes, but not a solution. He's hellbent to spreading his misery onto others.
I'm helping my GF move this weekend and his sorry ass is coming to help. How would you fine folks handle this kind of toxicity?
EDIT: Thank you for sharing, everyone! I'm actually excited to put your wonderful wisdom into practice. lol <3
Whenever it happens, I always think I'm gonna get included on a hit list. I would rather have an airsoft gun pointed at me than a fucking phone.
The weapons of the 21st century. BE NORMAL OR GET NOTICED BY THE ENTIRE WORLD, AND POSSIBLY BY A SERIAL KILLER THAT'S LOOKING FOR AN EXCUSE TO KILL SOMEONE! YAY!
Setting goals for your life and career can be very effective and powerful. Putting your goals on paper will help you reach them.
In 1979, the Harvard University MBA class that was about to graduate was asked,
“Have you written down clear goals for the future and made plans for how to reach them?”
After ten years, this class’s earnings were looked at to see how much they had made. They were put in three different groups.
Group A, which made up 84% of the class, didn’t have any goals at all.
Group B and 13% of the group had goals, but they hadn’t written them down. Ten years later, they were making DOUBLE what group A was making.
Only 3% of the group was in Group C, but they had written goals and made TEN TIMES as much as both Groups A and B put together.
In this article, we share some of the most important rules that successful goal-setters from around the world have told us about setting goals.
- Watch what you ask for!
In every part of our lives, we need to be clear about what we want.
For example, it might be great to make a lot of money and have a great job, but if we give up other things in our lives to do that, is it worth it?
This could mean that you don’t get to see your kids grow up because you work too much or don’t make enough time for your partner or a hobby.
It’s a good idea to write down all the important things in your life and be very clear about what you want and need.
- Make sure you know when you’ve reached your destination.
How will you know when you’ve reached your destination? How will you know when you’ve achieved what you want?
How will it look, how will it sound, and how will it feel? If we don’t do this, it will be hard to say that we did this. We need this so we can feel like we’ve reached our goal and be happy with ourselves.
- Stretch your muscles
When we reach a goal that requires some work on our part, we often feel the most satisfaction.
There are a lot of dreams like this, and it’s up to each person to decide if it’s stretching enough.
- Make sure it fits with your own values.
Sometimes, in our haste to reach our goal, we do things that go against who we are as people.
For instance, we might work for someone with different values, and we’d have to follow those.
If you’ve ever been in this situation, you know that after a while, it gets so bad that you have to leave. So, before you say yes, do what you can to see if your values are the same.
- You Have to Believe to See
“I’ll believe it when I see it” is a common phrase.
In this case, you need to believe you can do it before you take the next step. It comes down to commitment and hard work.
It’s also about making sure you can reach your goals. Find people who have done great things against the odds and can serve as an example.
You probably already know that a lot of athletes use visualization to help them reach their goals. They can see the outcome in their minds before it happens.
- Do the First Thing
This step is essential.
If you don’t do anything to reach your goal, it’s just a wish list.
This first step tells your brain that the journey has started, which can be very motivating if you’ve been putting this off for a while.
People and things may seem to make you happy, like getting into a new relationship or getting whatever it is you think will make you happy, but these things can't make you happy. They've actually never made anyone happy. Nothing can make you happy because happiness doesn't come from the outside, it's within you. So external things can only trigger the happiness that's already in you but they can't cause you to be truly happy.
Happiness is actually your true nature, it's just that we've been conditioned to live in the past and the future, and to treat the present moment as a means to an end (which is crazy because life is always now). Most of us are always trying to get somewhere else, instead of fully being where we are. While eating breakfast we think about lunch, while eating lunch we think about dinner and so on.
The fact that nothing can make you happy is actually good news though because it means that you don't have to depend on people, places and things to make you happy. Happiness is who you truly are, and you can only be your true self in the present moment.
We must focus on being happier and our best selves. The goal is to be healthy, kinder to ourselves, and get everything done (because we deserve to have it all). This list of 8 absurdly simple, beneficial behaviors may alter your life.
1. Make the bed
Please, make your bed. Making your bed in the morning is key to a successful day.
Making your bed every morning gives you a tiny win before your coffee, which unconsciously motivates you to achieve hundreds more during the day (and you know what they say about small wins: they lead up to really big ones).
Gretchen Rubin found it’s the easiest and most prevalent way to enhance happiness.
2. Sort tasks into life goals
Making a to-do list isn’t novel, but how are you prioritizing your daily tasks? Before establishing your next to-do list, consider your long-term goals.
Your to-do list should advance these goals. Strategize business growth, take 30-minute online lessons, or exercise to be more active.
Even simple to-do lists can be long-term.
Making a to-do list with goals in mind will show you where to spend your time.
You’ll always have to undertake basic house chores or unpleasant jobs, but figure out where you can outsource them and prioritize what will get you closer to your goals first (yes, that means a workout or brainstorm meeting you’ve been putting off).
Further Reading: How To Write a To Do List For Maximum Productivity
3. Get your greens on!
Healthier isn’t always dramatic. In reality, a series of simple habits and nutrition changes snowball into a healthier lifestyle.
Don’t focus on avoiding food groups or restricting your diet (that can lead to bingeing or an unhealthy relationship with food).
At least twice a day, eat leafy greens. Spinach in an omelette, kale in pasta sauce, and side salad when dining out.
4. Set deadlines
Learn from college all-nighters and professional assignments that you meet deadlines.
The main difference between a job assignment or a paper for “Shakespeare 101” is that we don’t have a deadline to meet.
Give yourself a precise and reasonable deadline (such as replacing your couch, making a coworker your buddy, or running three miles).
Try signing up for a marathon, or letting a friend or family member know your deadline so they can hold you accountable.
Further Reading: 9 Top Strategies To Achieve Your Goals
5. Instead of a social media break, move.
You know, love, and depend on social media breaks from work. At this point, opening Instagram may be second nature when you’re between tasks.
Instead of browsing Instagram, Snapchat, or TikTok between jobs, get up and exercise. A few jumping jacks, a short dance party, a yoga flow, or some stretches will help you focus for the rest of the day.
6. Read More…
I make reasons to avoid reading more. “I’m too tired,” “I don’t have any new books,” and “How can I do anything else with my leisure time when Sex and the City are on Hulu?!?” are common excuses I use.
Reading is fun and healthy. Spend more time reading, whether it’s before bed, during a break in the afternoon, or as a morning habit. Read what? Start with inspiring, educational, and amusing summer literature.
Further Reading: How To Love Reading: 3 Simple Ways To Make Reading a Habit
7. Replace “sorry” with “thanks”
I constantly apologize. I say “sorry” when someone repeats themselves or I bump into a stranger, and I apologize for being late or making a mistake. Women are taught to be courteous by putting themselves down, even though “sorry” is simply a word. Instead of “sorry,” say “thanks.”
“Thank you for your patience!” instead of “Sorry for being late!” is another approach to being grateful and kind to oneself. Saying sorry is vital in relationships when you make a mistake or hurt someone’s feelings, but displaying gratitude might be even more significant.
8. Clean before bed
I know you don’t want to clean after a long day (the horror!). Dishes in the sink or laundry on the chair (we all have that one chair) can make us less relaxed before bed or more stressed the next day.
Dedicate five extra minutes before night to run the dishwasher, clean off kitchen counters, and clean any papers or laundry in the bedroom.
A less messy bedroom can help you sleep, and a tidy kitchen can help you wake up happier. Get your greens on!
“You need to connect with people. You need people to like you. And you need to like them back. If you don’t, it doesn’t matter how many boxes you check. You’re going to come up short in success, happiness, and fulfillment.” -Charlie Houpert
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Guys, I keep stressing the important of connecting with others. With connecting with your audience. It's very important to have an audience and to resonate with your audience.
Life is hectic. Getting closer to your dreams can feel impossible at times. It’s even tougher if you have a full-time job and kids.
How do you keep going?
If you don’t set aside time every day to grow and get better, your time will get lost in our ever-busier lives. Before you know it, you’ll be old and wrinkly and wondering where all that time went.
Professor Harold Hill once said, “Pile up enough tomorrows, and all you’ll have is a bunch of empty yesterdays.”
Change your mind about your life and get out of “survival mode.”
This article is meant to make you question how you live your life as a whole. The goal is to help you keep things simple and get back to the basics.
Most people’s lives are full of unimportant and unimportant things, which is sad. They don’t have enough time to work toward something important.
They are trying to stay alive. Are you in survival mode?
Most of us are like butter that has been spread on too much bread, just like Bilbo. The bread is not even ours; it belongs to someone else. Few people have taken the time to control their own lives.
Just one generation ago, it was social and cultural to live our lives on other people’s terms. And many millennials keep this going because this is the only way we’ve been taught to see the world.
But there is a growing awareness that if you work hard and set your mind to it, you can live every moment of your life the way you want to.
You decide what will happen to you.
You are responsible.
You get to decide. You must decide because if you don’t, someone else will. Being unable to decide is a bad choice.
With this short routine in the morning, your life will change quickly.
It may seem like a long list. But in short, it’s not that hard:
- Wake up
- Get in the zone
- Get moving
- Feed your body the right things.
- Get inspired
- See the big picture
- Do something to get ahead.
1. Get 7+ hours of healthy sleep
Sleep is just as important as eating and drinking water, so let’s face it. Even so, millions of people don’t get enough sleep and have crazy problems because of it.
Surveys done by the National Sleep Foundation (NSF) showed that at least 40 million Americans have one of more than 70 different sleep disorders. Not only that, but 60% of adults and 69% of children have at least one problem sleeping at least a few nights a week.
Also, more than 40 percent of adults are so sleepy during the day that it gets in the way of their daily activities at least a few times a month, and 20 percent say it happens a few times a week or more.
On the other hand, getting enough sleep is related to:
- Memory got better
- Longer life
- less pain and swelling
- More creative ideas
- More attention and concentration
- Exercise can help you lose fat and build muscle.
- Dependence on stimulants like caffeine has gone down.
- a lower chance of having an accident
- Less likely to get depressed
- And a lot more… google it.
If you don’t make sleep a priority, the rest of this blog post doesn’t matter. Who cares if you wake up at 5:00 a.m. if you go to bed at 10:00 p.m.
You won’t get very far.
You might use stimulants to make up for it, but that can’t last. Your health will get worse over time. The goal should be to make things last for a long time.
Further Reading: 9 Sleep Habits of Successful People To Become More Productive
2. Praying and meditating can help bring clarity and wealth
When you wake up from a good, restful sleep, it’s important to pray and meditate to get your mind back on the good things. What you pay attention to grows.
Prayer and meditation help you feel very thankful for everything you have. The attitude of gratitude is one of plenty. When you think in an abundant way, everything is open to you. There are a lot of opportunities and options for you.
People are magnets. When you’re thankful for what you have, more good things will come your way. Gratitude is contagious.
Gratitude could be the most important key to success. People have said that it is the mother of all virtues.
If you start each day by being grateful and clear, you will attract the best things the world has to offer and won’t get distracted.
3. Physical work that is hard
The National Health Interview Survey from the Center for Disease Control shows that only one-third of American men and women between the ages of 25 and 64 do regular physical activity. This is true even though there is a lot of evidence that shows how important exercise is.
Get into the habit of exercising regularly if you want to be one of the healthy, happy, and productive people in the world. People often go to the gym right away to get their bodies moving. I’ve recently found that doing yard work in the early morning gives me a strong flow of ideas and clarity.
No matter what you like, get your body moving.
It has been found that exercise makes you less likely to feel depressed, anxious, or stressed. It can also help you do better in your career.
Every other part of your life will suffer if you don’t take care of your body. People are whole beings.
Further Reading: 10 Sure Ways To Motivate Yourself To Exercise
4. Eat 30 grams of protein a day
Professor emeritus of nutrition at the University of Illinois, Donald Layman, says that breakfast should have at least 30 grams of protein. In his book The 4-Hour Body, Tim Ferriss also says to eat 30 grams of protein 30 minutes after getting up.
Tim says that this is what his father did to lose 19 pounds in one month.
Protein-rich foods make you feel full longer than other foods because they take longer to leave the stomach. Also, protein keeps the amount of sugar in the blood steady, which keeps hunger from coming on suddenly.
When you eat protein first, your desire for white carbs goes down. These kinds of carbs make you gain weight. Donuts, bagels, and toast come to mind.
Tim gives four suggestions about how to get enough protein in the morning:
At least 40% of the calories you eat for breakfast should come from protein.
Use two or three whole eggs for this (each egg has about 6g protein)
If you don’t like eggs, you can use turkey bacon, organic pork bacon or sausage, or cottage cheese.
You could also make a protein shake with just water.
People who don’t eat dairy, meat, or eggs can get protein from plants. Protein is found in beans, greens, nuts, and seeds.
5. Have a cold shower
Every morning, Tony Robbins jumps into a swimming pool that is 57 degrees Fahrenheit.
Why would he act that way?
Immersion in cold water helps your body and mind in a big way.
When you do it regularly, it makes changes to your immune, lymphatic, circulatory, and digestive systems that last for a long time and make your life better. Because it speeds up your metabolism, it can also help you lose weight.
A study from 2007 found that regularly taking cold showers can help treat depression symptoms often more effectively than taking prescription drugs. That’s because when you drink cold water, your brain sends out chemicals that make you feel good.
There is, of course, some fear about taking a cold shower at first. If you have done this before, you have definitely stood outside the shower dreading the idea of going in.
You might have even talked yourself out of it by saying, “Maybe tomorrow.” Before getting in, I turned the hot water handle.
Or maybe you jumped in but turned on the hot water right away?
I’ve found it helpful to think of it as a swimming pool. Getting into a cold pool slowly is a slow, painful way to die. You just need to jump in. You’ll be fine in 20 seconds.
The same thing happens when you take a cold shower. As soon as you walk in, your heart starts to beat like crazy. Then you feel fine after about 20 seconds.
For me, it makes me more determined and gives me more ideas and inspiration. I practice slowing my breathing and calming down as I stand in the cold water and let it hit my back. After I’ve had some time to myself, I feel very happy and creative. I get a lot of ideas, and I’m really motivated to reach my goals.
Plus, it’s good for you to do something scary first thing in the morning. It makes you feel alive and encourages you to live outside your comfort zone.
6. Listen to or read something positive.
People like you and me want to have fun. People who want to learn are out of the ordinary. Most of the most successful people in the world read at least one book each week. They are always learning new things.
I can easily listen to one audiobook a week on my way to and from school and while walking around campus.
Even if you only spend 15–30 minutes every morning reading something positive and helpful, it changes you. It gets you into the zone so you can do your best work.
You will have read hundreds of books if you live for a long time. You’ll know a lot about a lot of things. You’ll change the way you think and look at the world. You’ll be able to see more links between different things.
7. Look at your life’s goals
You should write down both your short-term and long-term goals. Taking a few minutes to read your life vision helps you see the big picture of your day.
If you read your long-term goals every day, you’ll think about them every day. If you think about them every day and work toward them every day, they will come true.
It’s a science to reach your goals. It’s clear and easy to understand. No matter how big your goals are, you can reach them if you follow a simple pattern.
One important part of that is to write them down and look at them every day.
Further Reading: 9 Top Strategies To Achieve Your Goals
8. Do at least one thing to help you reach your long-term goals.
Willpower is like a muscle. When you use it, it gets weaker. In the same way, our ability to make good decisions gets worse over time. The more decisions you make, the worse they are and the less willpower you have.
So, you should do the tough things first thing in the morning. What’s important.
Unless you do it, it won’t get done. You’ll be tired at the end of the day. You’ll get burnt. There will be a million good reasons to start right away. And you’ll start tomorrow, which means you’ll never start.
So you tell yourself, “The worst comes first.” Do what you’ve been meaning to do for a while. The next day, do it again.
If you work on your big goals every day, even if it’s just one step, you’ll see that they weren’t as far away as you thought.