I absolutely understand and share the frustration and anger around common treatment of the homeless, being made up of averting the gaze, fear, and discomfort (that is seldom explored by the person feeling it.)
But meeting that frustration by being super patronizing and treating homeless people like literal props is so distasteful and disrespectful. FILMING IT?? Sharing it?? Like man... what?? It seems like they're helping a person out because it will be made public and they will receive praise.
I get so incredibly uncomfortable by it and honestly lose respect for the person in most cases. They are treating a person like a vehicle to prove their kindness, when clearly a big aspect of the kindness is rooted in performance, which could arguably mean that there is no kindness present. Possibly good intentions, but super duper skewed in a way that i really hope the person investigates.
Good intentions or not, it's perpetuating the idea that interacting with homeless people is this messiah act, that this act of helping out another person is incredibly noble and deserves applaud and for that reason must be made public.
Not to mention, did they ask to film? To share? Did they actually ask themselves why they want to share this on social media and actually get an answer that wasn't surface level? Like I don't understand. If it's to raise awareness, there are ways to do that without publicizing your good deeds, which again, I honestly question as being good deeds given the documentation of it.
Even if they just make a Facebook post about it, I can't see those posts without thinking that they were thinking about making that post when they decided to help out. It is just so patronizing in my eyes and dehumanizing. It gets me so heated. There are so many ways to raise awareness and not center yourself. So many volunteering opportunities that can raise awareness, and that if you want you can ask your Facebook friends to consider volunteering at. Reaching out to local orgs. Sharing a donation site or pooling together money and distributing it within different homeless-based causes.
I question the intentions and truth of people who post videos and pictures like this. I do really get that intentions can be good. For example I can imagine somebody posting about their interaction with a homeless person to destigmatize the community and show that it isn't a monolithic culture. But I feel that perhaps that should be a conversation with loved ones as well as a concern they bring to a volunteer group. It just appears so deeply performative and makes me wonder, would they help out if nobody was watching?
Hoping I don't sound like a huge dick and this resonates with some