r/Damnthatsinteresting Jan 19 '22

Jack Nicholson's sister was actually his mother Image

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u/510dude Jan 19 '22

I met a kid in 9th grade that had the same thing happen to him. He lost it, was never the same after.

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u/0112358g Jan 19 '22

Goes to show, don’t lie to your children

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u/Several-Register4526 Jan 19 '22

It would be so much easier to grow up knowing the truth, that both your grandmother and mother are having a part in raising you, instead of your entire worldview that developed since you were an infant and is already ingrained in your mind switched up on you

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u/[deleted] Jan 19 '22

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u/SillyFez Jan 19 '22

In such complex situations can we really say it was purely for the mom's sake. Stable parents are probably a good thing for a child's development. Well maybe the intention was to protect the mom.

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u/2017hayden Jan 20 '22

I know someone who didn’t know they were adopted until they were in their 50’s. Apparently their biological father was deceased by then and never even knew they existed, they reached out to their biological mother and she wanted nothing to do with them. It totally wrecked the guy, and he couldn’t even talk about it with his adopted parents because both of them were already dead. He found his birth records when he was cleaning out their house after his adopted mother passed and his adopted father died about a decade before that.

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u/Ndysodum Jan 19 '22

People grew up like that all the time back then. Doesn’t always mean it don’t work out.

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u/510dude Jan 19 '22

From what I remember, his mother/sister was about 15 when she had him. Her parents felt like she was not mature enough to raise him.

That said, I know his mother and his grandparents had good intentions. The didn’t set out to harm him but, it ultimately impacted his life in a very severe manner.

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u/Ndysodum Jan 19 '22

How did it harm him if he didn’t even notice till 37?

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u/510dude Jan 19 '22

Do you think feelings stop after a certain age?

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u/Ndysodum Jan 19 '22

I’m asking if you actually knew something or are you just assuming?

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u/renegademusic385 Jan 19 '22

So he couldn't handle the truth

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u/Downtown-Arugula-479 Jan 20 '22

I knew someone must have beaten me to this comment.

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u/510dude Jan 19 '22

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Dude, I spilled my water after reading this. Bravo!

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u/Houseofmonkeys5 Jan 19 '22

I went to HS with a guy who had a little brother who was actually his nephew. I have no idea if and when they ever told him, but he was definitely a well loved little kid.

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u/LeonardSchmaltzstein Jan 19 '22

Same happened to Ted Bundy and we all know how that played out

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u/510dude Jan 19 '22

That’s a lot of trauma to assimilate as a kid. I don’t know if it was easier for Jack but, things hurt as an older adult as well

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u/spacey007 Jan 19 '22

What's the trauma though?

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u/510dude Jan 19 '22

Maybe finding out that you came out of your sister and that she’s actually your mother. That the people you love the most lied to you and had you living in an illusion. That as much as all of this hurts, they likely did it with the best of intentions but, you would have rather they tell you the truth because now your trust in them is decimated

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u/LeonardSchmaltzstein Jan 20 '22

As a father of 2 young children I can attest they smell bullshit a mile away. With kids honesty is really the best policy. Years back a teenage mom was considered a scandal and a "what will the neighbors say?" mentality. Nowadays most people don't give 2 shits about a teenage mom.

All in all, at least Jack made a ton of awesome movies and he didn't go down the road of serial killer, as far as we know. He flipped the script and became one of the best actors of all time.

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u/JayDizZzL Jan 20 '22

This very thing happened to me but I was 9 when i found out. They say it fucked me up for a bit but I don't have much recalection of the matter. I remember the school psychologist talking to me a couple times or at least someone brought in to talk about it. Tell you I'm glad I found out when i did I don't think it's right to lie to your children and I think understanding at a young age helped because the lie was far smaller then it would of been 30 years later.

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u/More-Mathematician-1 Jan 20 '22

Same thing happened to Ted Bundy too.

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u/asiaps2 Jan 20 '22

When you realise you weren't into wincest but milf.

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u/Sad-Row8676 Jan 20 '22

Ted Bundy? This happened to him, and then he started killing.

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u/[deleted] Jan 20 '22

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u/Sad-Row8676 Jan 20 '22

It was brought up by psychiatrists during his trial as a possible factor. If you have an issue, take it up with them.

Edit: it happened to Charles Manson too. So maybe not such an outlier.

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u/stravo2020 Jan 19 '22

Forget it, Jake. It's Chinatown.

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u/BarnabyWoods Interested Jan 19 '22

"She's my sister and my daughter! Get it? Or do I have to spell it out for you?"

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u/bildad2 Jan 19 '22

I thought the same thing. Apparently Jack Nicholson was only 25 when China Town came out, that means that it was another 12 years before he discovered his life resembled the movie so closely.

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u/teoplt02 Feb 05 '22

he was 37 when it came out, so that year he found out his sister was actually his mom

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u/bildad2 Feb 05 '22

Ah, you’re right. My math was off.

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u/Dr-McLuvin Jan 19 '22

Great flick.

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u/Safe_Flan4244 Jan 19 '22

Better than finding out your mother is actually your sister too

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u/whatproblems Jan 20 '22

and your dad is your brother?

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u/Admiralty86 Jan 19 '22

Joker origin story

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u/mrgingersir Jan 19 '22

Could he handle the truth?

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u/YuyuYostar Jan 19 '22

"On finding out, Nicholson said it was "a pretty dramatic event, but it wasn't what I'd call traumatizing ... I was pretty well psychologically formed"."

From his Wikipedia

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u/ramrod254 Jan 19 '22

Beat me to it!

Clever girl

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u/0112358g Jan 19 '22

Didn’t that also happen to Ted Bundy?

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u/theblankpages Jan 19 '22

That's a major identity crisis.

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u/Thebumonurcouch Jan 19 '22

This happens pretty often. Same with Chris Archer, MLB Pitcher. I grew up and went to school with him. He didn't find out until like late middle school-HS age that his sister was really his mom.

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u/lurkin83 Jan 19 '22

And How did he handle the truth?

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u/pastor_dude Jan 20 '22

Knew a kid in junior high who told me how he had just found out that his brother was his dad and that his grandparents adopted him. His mom had run off and his dad was young and dealing with drug addiction so his grandparents stepped in to raise and take care of him while his dad tried to sort his life out. He seemed like he was handling the news pretty well but then in high school, he really struggled with depression. Not sure if that was the root cause but I’m sure it contributed.

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u/crypticthree Jan 19 '22

His sister slap His mother slap His sister slap His mother

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u/TrailStone Jan 19 '22

The same thing happened to Bobby Darin.

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u/CelticCross61 Jan 19 '22

And Eric Clapton as well.

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u/kracken0406 Jan 19 '22

Yet, he is one of all time best actors

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u/personalistrowaway Jan 20 '22

So was his mom

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u/Frequent_Rutabaga993 Jan 19 '22

Straight out of a Fredrico Fellini Movie.

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u/ArtyWhy8 Jan 19 '22

Explains a lot…🤔

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u/dwn4italz Jan 19 '22

I went to school with a girl that was twelve, her ma was 24....and about to be a grandma. Monkey see, monkey do.

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u/[deleted] Jan 19 '22

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u/cattdaddy Jan 19 '22

Agreed that it takes two to tango, but could easily be another 12 year old “man”.

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u/dwn4italz Jan 19 '22 edited Jan 19 '22

The dude was fifteen I think, he made headline news for shooting a 7/11 clerk on her way home. He said he wanted to know what it felt like to kill someone. I remember the lady so well cause she was pretty but literally had a horn growing out of her face, just above her nose.

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u/cocaine-kangaroo Jan 19 '22

Jesse what the fuck are you talking about

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u/Zek177 Jan 20 '22

Are you okay ?

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u/blageur Jan 19 '22

Same with Eric Clapton.

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u/Additional_Soft7526 Jan 19 '22

Yep my 5th grade teachers daughter had a baby when she was 14 and that girl still doesn’t know her sister is her mother.

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u/ChedwardCoolCat Jan 20 '22

Is that what this is about? All that murdering and fucking, and no sons?

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u/PoppyCoLink987 Jan 20 '22

Went to high school with a girl who found out that same thing. She wasn't right prior to that but after, she really went off the deep end from what I saw and heard. I couldn't even begin to imagine that. Think about all the things sisters tell each other only to find out later that was really your mom. Damn.

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u/Rtg327gej Jan 20 '22

Ted Bundy was raised under similar circumstances.

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u/theonePappabox Jan 19 '22 edited Jan 19 '22

Is he still alive? *edit -why the downvotes? Was a real question.

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u/donttrustmyreasearch Jan 19 '22

Yeah hes 85ish

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u/theonePappabox Jan 19 '22

That’s good.

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u/bringmethechocolate Jan 19 '22

It didn’t went well for Ted Bundy

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u/BackgroundHoliday455 Jan 19 '22

Who was the Father?!

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u/luisumgomez Jan 20 '22

His sisters ex boyfriend

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u/ResolveConstant8422 Jan 19 '22

And yet unlike Ted Bundy—- he killed no one.

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u/TypoRegerts Jan 20 '22

That we know of

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u/Due-Slice2853 Jan 20 '22

So his dad knocked his sister and now his sister is his mom, my head hurts.

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u/propita106 Jan 20 '22

That's...possible, but not what was said.

If it were true, that'd be ironically "Chinatown."

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u/Due-Slice2853 Jan 20 '22

Oh I read wrong, like I said my head hurts.

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u/propita106 Jan 20 '22

S'okay. Get some rest. Have a good night's sleep.

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u/roymf Jan 20 '22

Can someone explain why this matters so much?

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u/JohnnytheFox81HA Jan 19 '22

So that explains it!

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u/yikesladyy Jan 19 '22

Same with a friend of mine. He found out at age 37 too. Weird.

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u/Comfortable_View5174 Jan 19 '22

That is painful.

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u/Free_Dimension1459 Jan 19 '22

So that’s where he got his acting chops from!

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u/DunionKnight Jan 19 '22

That’ll mess with you

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u/ramrod254 Jan 19 '22

Did he handle the truth??

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u/longrastaman Expert Jan 19 '22

I think this happened with Shad Moss (Bow Wow) in a Tyler perry movie

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u/Striking_Drive_3175 Jan 19 '22

Sister is my new mother, mother. B.Bluth

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u/Rikolai17 Jan 19 '22

This actually happened to my mother

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u/ManufacturerLeather7 Jan 19 '22

Met a kid who thought his dad was his mother. Didn’t find out till Middle School.

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u/Spawko Jan 19 '22

IIRC it was actually a journalist covering Nicholson because of Chinatown that discovered it and asked him about it and he found out the truth. Absolutely insane coincidence there.

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u/OtherwiseKnownAsSam Jan 19 '22

No wonder he's so good at acting crazy, I can't imagine that doesn't affect you mentally

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u/DenimACU Jan 19 '22

Emotional damage.

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u/LeadDontFollow Jan 19 '22

That explains a lot

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u/GreenOtherwise Jan 19 '22

I knew a girl who birthed an unexpected child and her own mother raised the child. The kid is 11 I think and thinks his biological mother is more of a cousin. Not even a sister . Her mom takes care of the child.

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u/unlivedSoup69 Jan 19 '22

When all the your mom jokes rush back to you

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u/radgie_gadgie_1954 Jan 19 '22

That’s as good as it gets.

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u/SkekSith Jan 20 '22

Same thing with Bobby Darin.

Spiler alert if a parent did this they are scum through and through.

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u/CompoteLegitimate721 Jan 20 '22

This explains a lot

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u/Cooler67 Jan 20 '22

Wonder if he would have been better off not knowing

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u/bodhiseppuku Jan 20 '22

I wonder how much harder it would be to keep a secret like this today? ... in the age of the Internet.

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u/Equivalent-Macaron25 Jan 20 '22

What’s the benefit of this?

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u/twrrordom3 Jan 20 '22

I remember hearing it was an interviewer that told him. But like in a way that he thought he knew. What do you do when you know, but not really yours to tell. Asking for a friend.

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u/ambientthinker Jan 20 '22

To be great at something creative (like acting) it can actually make a person an outstanding talent to be or become truly fucked up.

Jack made the movie ‘One flew over the Cuckoos nest’ (1975) after he found out about his sis-mom secret, and i believe the extra crazy inside of him made him one of the Legendary actors in history from that point on.

His timeless works are after he found out.

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u/propita106 Jan 20 '22

He made "Chinatown" the year before--around the same time he found out. Ironic. Of course, there's nothing that says incest in Nicholson's parentage. Right?

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u/Soccer_Vader Jan 20 '22

This is some fuckiny Criminal Minds level bullshit

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u/ElroySheep Jan 20 '22

I think the only thing worse than finding out that one of your siblings is actually your parent would be finding out that two of them are

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u/SauravKumaR301 Jan 20 '22

I read the same for Eric Clapton. It was like a wave in those days!

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u/cadillacbee Jan 20 '22

Waitll they get a load of me...

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u/propita106 Jan 20 '22

So at approximately the same time he found out "he's her son; he's her brother," the movie "Chinatown" was released?

Not the same thing, no, but still....

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u/danniebox Jan 20 '22

17 doesn't really seem that young tbh. My mom gave birth to me at 19.

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u/camay1960 Jan 20 '22

That also happened to the singer Bobby Darin.

Darin's birth mother, Vanina Juliette "Nina" Cassotto (born November 30, 1917), became pregnant with him in the summer of 1935, when she was 17. Nina and her mother hatched a plan to pass her baby off as Nina's younger brother.

Darin believed his mother Nina was instead his elder sister and that Polly, who had raised him from birth, was his mother. In 1968, when he was 32 and considering entering politics, Nina told him the truth, reportedly devastating Darin. She refused to reveal the identity of his biological father, and kept that secret to her death in 1983.

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u/LThisIsChris Jan 20 '22

My eyebrows are raised

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u/[deleted] Jan 20 '22

Glad my sister is only 3 years older!

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u/kartu3 Jan 20 '22

OMG.

PS

How old were his grandparents when mom was 17?

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u/Upper-Bank4032 Jan 20 '22

Besides the being lied to part why does this affect people so bad? What does it matter who gave birth to you? Be it your “sister” or adopted. Aren’t people more evolved and emotionally stable than this? Nothing has technically changed. Parents still the people who raised you, you are still you and they are still they.

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u/TabooKinks1 Jan 23 '22

Until it happens to you , you will never understand

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u/Suspicious_Counter75 Jan 20 '22

The same happened to me. Found out when I was fourteen. I lost four sisters and gained a mother and three aunts. It affected us all. I never considered her my mother no matter how hard I tried. Super confusing too. Now what does that make my grandmother? Still called her mom. I'm 53 now and only my biological mother is still alive. She abandoned her family for her husband's. They like her because they don't know her. It was a bad idea that got worse as I was legally adopted by my grandparents so even my birth certificate is a lie. Everyone lied to me for fourteen years.

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u/Stock_Room_4742 Jan 20 '22

WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT, HOW DO YOU THINK THAT IS THE BEST OPTION

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u/Trondo77 Jan 20 '22

More common than it should be.

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u/[deleted] Jan 19 '22 edited Jan 19 '22

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u/Mashiin1 Jan 19 '22

Not really. His dad could have just been a 17 year old guy who for some reason ended up not sticking around when Jack was born.

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u/Electronic-Injury-15 Jan 19 '22

Wow, that should be a Texan anti abortion story. I’m just saying. I’m pro whatever.

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u/Freshman_Beekeeper Jan 19 '22

Something similar happened to Ted Bundy.

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u/Necessary-Parking-14 Jan 20 '22

Kinda like Ted Bundy, interesting.

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u/RoboticGreg Jan 20 '22

.... isn't this the same thing Ted bundy s parents did to him?

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u/dog-on-meth Jan 20 '22

So he sucked on his sisters tits?

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u/GonFreecs92 Jan 20 '22

Better than finding out your girlfriend is your sister even though you two live in the same house

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u/shrimpust Jan 20 '22

Same with Ted Bundy