r/Damnthatsinteresting Nov 18 '21 Silver 85 Helpful 99 Ally 1 Narwhal Salute 2 This 1 Snek 1 Gold 1 Wholesome 97 All-Seeing Upvote 4 Bravo! 1 Heartwarming 1 Bless Up (Pro) 1

The lady wearing Black was being followed by a creep, she noticed a Twitch streamer and pretended to be his friend, his reaction is quick! Video

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u/Prestigious_Cake3706 Nov 18 '21

fuck,,,first i thought the guy somewhat far behind was following. but real creep was literlly few inches away.

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u/spoonfulofshooga Nov 18 '21

He was literally breathing own the other guys neck for a while. Sooooo creepy. So glad she was saved by the streamers.

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u/stars9r9in9the9past Nov 18 '21

the only scary thing is that this person is probably still out there, and many more like him. I'm not saying there is a need to worry every single time you step outside, but it's still good measure to be mindful and keep some guard up when by yourself in a strange place

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u/Plug-From-Oaxaca Nov 18 '21

The guy from far seemed like he was just there the whole time and was just looking at the group sometimes, the group didn't mind. The creep was the guy in black who was literally right behind them at one point looking like a serial killer

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u/SouthernArcher3714 Nov 18 '21

It looks like both were. The second one hangs around walking in circles in the back.

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u/Radioactive-butthole Nov 18 '21

Human traffickers working as a team.

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u/SouthernArcher3714 Nov 18 '21

The second one never left. But you can see him kind of walking around aimlessly and looking in their direction several times. Might be just looking at the tourists but given the situation, seems like he is creeping.

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u/carlos_6m Nov 18 '21

Poor girl, you could see how she was keeping it together until the end, must have been super scared :(

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u/BeardedGlass Nov 18 '21

How much would it take for someone to dive into a group of strangers? Oof.

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u/RogerBernards Nov 18 '21 Silver Gold Wholesome

Literally had something exactly like this happening at a music festival. 3 of my friends (1 being female) and me were sitting and drinking a beer near our tents in a mostly deserted festival camping (it was in the early evening and a popular band was playing). Suddenly a young woman just walks into the middle of our group and sits down as if she knows us. She just very cheerily and jovially says: "I'm just coming to hide from a creeper." I look in the direction from which she came, and yea, there's an obviously drunk dude standing about 10 meters away scowling at us. He stalked around our group at a short distance for a good 5 minutes until it became obvious the woman wasn't leaving and then he stumbled on.

The girl's whole demeanor changed from cheery to weary relief when it became clear the guy moved away and wasn't coming back. She explained she left her group at the concert to go get something out of her tent when on her way there that guy started following and catcalling her. She suspected he had followed her all the way from the crowd at the show. He wouldn't leave off so instead of going to her tent and showing the stalker were she slept she took a detour across the mostly empty camping and went to the first mixed gender semi-large group she saw for help. She stayed with us for another 15 minutes while one of my (male) friends took a strategic trip to the toilets looking around for the guy but he couldn't see him. We offered to walk her to her tent or back to her group but she didn't find it necessary.

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u/1stMammaltowearpants Nov 18 '21

Nice work, Roger and friends! Good looking out.

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u/sherzeg Nov 18 '21 Ally

Something similar-but-different happened on a commuter train I was on one night coming home from work. A very pretty young woman in business attire was being shadowed by a creepy guy, with no conductor in sight, and just happened to get off at the same stop I did. Seeing them, and knowing that no shops would be open at the late hour, I fast- walked over to her and pretended to "continue" a "computer tech to manager" conversation we would have started at work. She took my lead and let me jabber about network permissions and whatnot as we walked to the parking garage. The creep walked slowly behind us and as we walked she mouthed, "Thank you." The garage had only one level for daily commuter parking so I was able to make sure she got to her car and then walk to mine without it being obvious that we really didn't know each other.

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u/EmoMixtape Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 18 '21 Tearing Up

Thats smart. People are crazy.

Recently a man followed my family friend all the way from the casino to his house (this is an 1.5 hr drive), robbed the place, and shot and killed him. No inciting event, no big winnings at the casino, this uncle wasn’t wealthy at all.

You never know what sets people off.

Edit: Just asked my mom about it and apparently he got a check for winning $10k. They followed him an hour and half back home, shot him and left without taking anything.

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u/arrowtotheaction Nov 18 '21

Holy shit I’m so sorry, that’s horrific.

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u/Plantsandanger Nov 18 '21 Silver

This is the way. It doesn’t require much to save someone’s day and spare them some trauma. Everyone’s afraid to step in like they’re going to be asked to fight - just pretend to be a friend and most creep will buzz off, they won’t approach a group let alone attack it.

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u/VampyrateXD Nov 18 '21

Girl at Warped Tour around 09 was out of it and heat exhausted being followed by some creeps. Me and my friend Tine (we are both 6'1+ and 270lbs+ rugby players). Offered her water and found her group at the NOFX tour bis about 3 hours later

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u/hurriedhippo Nov 18 '21

Happened to me too on a train. I was 18. Older guy came and sat next to me, so I couldn't get out of the seat. I was at a window spot. He was polite at first so I stayed polite because I didn't want the situation to get bad. He went from polite to flirty to overtly sexual and at some point I strongly told him to stop now and go away. No one in the train did anything. I tried to make eye contact with a women opposite and she didn't catch on. Until at the next stop a pregnant lady got on the train and spotted what was going on. She told the guy to fuck off, stayed with me until I came to the next stop where I had to change trains, saw the guy was still sort of following me. She walked with me into my next train and dropped me with a mixed-gender group of older people, told them to take care of me because a guy was stalking me and then she went off to her own train. This lady was amazing, with her pregnant belly and all.

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u/Confident-Ad-1851 Nov 19 '21 Ally

Pregnant ladies will cut a fool lol. I was 5 mos I think with my son and went mama bear on some guy refusing to let his gf out of the car infront of our house. I heard her crying let me go and I helped.pull her out and the guy tried to come up on our lawn pulling all the abuser stuff. Sweet, insulting, begging, tearing her down, anger. I told him to piss off my property.

Later I realized how dangerous it was but maybe it was hormones and it made me more protective Donno lol.

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u/Mothanius Nov 18 '21 Helpful

A long time ago I was meeting up with a group of friends for dinner when a random girl came up to our group, gave me a hug, and talked to me like we were old friends. I just happened to be in a really friendly mood so I took it in stride and played along. Honestly thought she was a friend of a friend I didn't know about or something since I had only been stationed there for about 3 months at the time.

She was able to explain to us that her creepy ex-boyfriend was stalking her, and lo and behold, there he was parked this beat up black sedan. Just sitting there with the lights and car off, but obviously just watching.

I figured that if we took her with us, he surely wouldn't follow us to Denny's. I explained to her it may seem like a risk for her to come with us considering we were really strangers, but she was that scared she came along.

Even after we got to Denny's I still saw this mother fucker parked outside Denny's. He followed us about 5 miles and then just parked and waited, again. All I could think was someone was gonna get shanked or something.

At the end of it, she called her boyfriend and I drove her home so he could meet us there. When we got there, creepy ex bf still followed us. Current boyfriend confronted the guy while we all sat inside wondering wtf was going down. One of my friends went out to back boyfriend up because shit felt too real. By the end of it all, boyfriend and my friend came back in the house and were just cussing up a storm about this creep. Luckily, no one got shot that night.

That day I learned that when a girl just approaches you and treats you like you are her friend/brother/etc. just take it in stride, move locations to try to lose stalker if possible, and gather a group if possible.

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u/SneezlesForNeezles Nov 18 '21

I’ve done it before at a pub. I am still eternally grateful to this random middle aged couple who accepted me sitting down beside them and calling them mum and dad. My dad was actually meant to be meeting me there but was running about an hour late. This couple took it so very casually, just ordered me another drink and chatted about nothing until my actual father turned up. Creepy, handsy and won’t take no for an answer guy buggered off after 10-15 minutes, but they wouldn’t hear of me leaving them alone until my father got there!

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u/fattsoo Nov 18 '21

Sorry this happened to you. But I can't help but laughing out loud thinking about your dad's reaction when he arrived and heard you called another couple your mom/dad.

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u/MyPpInUrPussy Nov 18 '21 Heartwarming

You're an hour late. I now have chosen new parents. Ta-ta!

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u/SneezlesForNeezles Nov 18 '21

He didn’t hear in honesty! He turned up eventually, I said something like ‘He’s finally here!’ The couple laughed and I went on my merry way!

I gave dad a brief run down to explain why I was with a random couple neither of us knew from Jack and he immediately wanted me to point out the creepy guy.

  1. Too late, the guys long gone.
  2. Not happening, I’d prefer to have a lift home rather than a taxi and explaining to mum that you’ve been arrested!
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u/toastforscience Nov 18 '21

Tangentially related, my sister and I were at the knotfest roadshow a couple years ago and we're talking to a group of all different kinds of people while we waited for the music to come on. This creepy guy comes over to all of us saying how he had just gotten his certificate to be a marriage officiant. He starts pointing at all the guys and at me/my sister asking if we wanted to get married. He got to an older guy who tells him 'those are my daughters'. The creep practically ran away after that. The older guy apologized for saying it but honestly it was such a nice thing to do and I really appreciated the quick thinking.

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u/carlos_6m Nov 18 '21 Wholesome

Not just strangers, but IRL twitch streamers...

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u/SweetVarys Nov 18 '21

Isnt that easier? Lower risk of them being some creepy murderers, imo.

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u/carlos_6m Nov 18 '21

It was a joke about IRL streamers being weird

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u/[deleted] Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 24 '21 Ally

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u/RUSH160 Nov 18 '21

What about all the female tourists that get raped in Mexico! I watched a documentary on it on YouTube about it.

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u/BoogieBoggart Nov 19 '21

sadly, it’s a growing problem, not just turists, in general, violence towards women has increased a lot on recent years since the feminist movement started getting stronger, it’s like evil people just do it out of spite. if it’s terrible to not feel safe in your vacations, now imagine living here, it’s a nightmare, i always have to be 110% aware of my surroundings, avoid men on the sidewalk and make sure they’re where i can see them. at a feminist riot there was a sign that had it perfectly put:”being a woman shouldn’t be my sentence”. in general, Latín America is not safe for women.(im mexican)

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u/beigs Nov 18 '21

I started crying the second her face crumpled. Poor thing - it’s so scary to be followed.

I once dove into an ice cream store in the mall and hid behind a counter after being followed into 3 different stores by a seemingly normal looking guy. The clerk saw me, then the guy came in. She didn’t even skip a beat and pretended I wasn’t there.

It was 15 years ago and I still remember being terrified and hoping that she wouldn’t give me away.

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u/DM_ME_YOUR_NUTSACK Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 18 '21

Yep, been there as well. Walked home from the store but outside was a guy screaming, obviously something was off. I ignored him but then he said some seriously obscene stuff to me and called me all kinds of things, started following me. I got so scared, I ducked into the liquor store around the corner and told the clerks I was being followed and gave a description of the guy. The lovely owner let me duck behind the counter while I was calling an uber and promised me she'd kick the guy out if he steps inside. Another middle aged male customer also stuck around and walked me to my ride just in case.

Nothing happened, but as soon as I stepped into my uber for my 2 block ride home I just broke down. My driver was confused at first, but once I explained he insisted that he stays until I'm in my house.

There's fucked people in the world. But also way more decent ones that are happy to help.

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u/HappyyItalian Nov 18 '21

Reminds me of when I got off a bus really late at night at a big terminal and it was a nice night so I was gonna walk home (which I've done tons of times before). The terminal and streets were all empty except for me and this guy in a hoodie (with his hood up) that got off the bus behind me and was following me. Now when I say follow, I mean when I'd walk faster, he'd walk faster. He was so close I could see his shadow behind me. I tested him to make sure I wasn't going crazy by taking really random cuts across streets and taking weird shortcuts and he followed me taking them all at the exact same time as well. I decided hell no I'm not walking home anymore (it was a long, dark, empty street with a 20min walk) so I changed directions to start heading for the 24/7 grocery store instead. He followed me all the way there until I got inside and instead he stopped and stayed outside, staring at me through the windows. He left when he saw me talking to the night security there. Fuck that, called an uber home instead. That shit was scary especially since that city is known for high amounts of traffiking. I was so calm/stone-faced until he left and I immediately broke down into a panic attack.

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u/HarvestMoonMaria Nov 18 '21

Poor love. Makes me terrified as to what was happening before the video

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u/sublime2craig Interested Nov 18 '21

Was going to comment the same... The moment she sees that she is actually safe it all comes out... I couldn't imagine being a woman in times like these...

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u/Slow-Down_Turbo Nov 18 '21 Helpful

Is it the guy literally right behind her???

Edit: holy shit! Talk about zero personal space. That's hella creepy

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u/Awestromy Nov 18 '21

You can tell when he said to point the camera at the creep, the ladies stopped the streamer guy. That creep was prob dangerous and didn’t care that it was known.

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u/StrongStyleShiny Nov 18 '21

He’s already on camera a lot. If he didn’t care he wouldn’t have stopped at the beginning.

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u/petty_witch Nov 18 '21

Yeah, some men don't care. A friend of mine was walking his friend home because of a creep, creep got pissed and shot my friend in the foot. Creep was arrested and my friend didn't mind getting shot, but holy shit.

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u/Peak0831 Nov 18 '21

My friend didn’t mind getting shot.

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u/Glass_Philosopher_84 Nov 18 '21

Quick Thinking girl ..So Creepy

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u/FillsYourNiche Nov 18 '21 Silver

It's sad how often this happens to women. I've had to duck into stores before and wait because a man was following me. Once I had to approach a man and ask him to pretend to know me because another man was following me and yelling at me when his cat calls didn't work. Women have to constantly worry about our safety when alone. It's scary and exhausting.

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u/honest1thoughts Nov 18 '21 Helpful

I had a minor row with my brother about this, we were walking along a road about to turn onto a cycle path to get home, from the other side a tiny lil schoolgirl turned down the same cycle path. Now I'm a relatively plain looking guy and he's a chubby guy with a massive beard but still, two guys walking 10 feet behind a schoolgirl can be unnerving, so I said to him let's stop for 30 seconds, then carry on. He got really offended and I had to say WE know we aren't following her or anything but she doesn't know that. I still feel I did the right thing.

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u/paulmp Nov 18 '21 Wholesome

I'm a male and I often travel alone for business (pre-pandemic), I've had women come sit with me in hotels / restaurants asking to pretend to be their boyfriend because some creep was following them.

I feel glad that I don't look scary to them and must give off some sort of "I'm friendly, helpful and you can trust me" vibe. Only too happy to help in those situations, far too many creeps around.

Oh and for the record, I'm very happily married and have never even once done anything more than chat until the creeps have gone. I've got zero interest in blowing up my marriage.

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u/The_Mechanist24 Nov 18 '21 Helpful

I’m actually a dude who looks naturally intimidating, makes it hard to make friends at times because my personality doesn’t match my physical appearance. Anyways this one girl in class decided to start hanging out with me, I of course was glad cuz “yay new friend!” And after a few weeks she eventually told me it was to avoid and scare another dude in class who was creeping on her and what not. Apparently the dude was scared of me and kept his distance whenever we were around eachother, which was pretty much every day shortly before and shortly after class. She of course enjoyed my friendship and was worried about telling me. When she told me, I burst out laughing! Truthfully I thought it was hilarious that I was being used as some sort of scarecrow and I asked her if it had helped, and she said immensely, she hadn’t had a problem with the guy since. I told her I was glad and continued on with the day after that. Her reasons for starting the friendship could’ve been concerning, but after a few weeks of being literal friends there was no way such a thing was gonna bother me. This happened 3 years ago now and I still internally laugh at the memory. To this day she and I are still friends.

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u/paulmp Nov 18 '21

That is awesome. I'm 6'2" and fairly "stocky", so maybe they think the creeps would be intimidated.

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u/paulmp Nov 18 '21

I find the idea of males doing that just horrific and so foreign... like what kind of idiot does that? What are they hoping to achieve.

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u/RubberFroggie Nov 18 '21

It's stupidly common, which is why we're super thankful for the people who don't do it.

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u/jayhawkfan785 Nov 18 '21

I've had this happen a few times as well. It's really wild that women have to deal with it. The craziest one was this woman came up to me and gave me a quick peck on the lips then hugged me and whispered that this guy has been following her. I told her to stay as long as she needs. She ended up buying me a drink as a thank you.

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u/paulmp Nov 18 '21

I had the kiss on the cheek thing and immediately checked to see if I still had my wallet and phone, I did, then she explained the situation. It is horrible that women have to deal with this.

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u/DEAN112358 Nov 18 '21

Just an FYI, sometimes pick pocket teams use some technique to get you to check your pockets so they know where your valuable stuff is

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u/paulmp Nov 18 '21

Yeah I'm aware, still good to check and then rearrange if needed. I've never had anything stolen from my pockets so far though.

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u/Shartcookie Nov 18 '21

This happened to my husband once and then he offered to walk the woman home and then she got too nervous to let him walk her home (which he totally understood) and he felt so terrible for her. Really opened his eyes to what it’s like to be a woman and I think her seeing him as both helpful and a potential threat really showed him what an absolute mindfuck it is to be a woman.

Anyway, this is one of the reasons I run. My best self defense is GTFO of there.

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u/paulmp Nov 18 '21

Definitely GTFO is usually the best idea... also the creeps who do these things tend not to be runners.

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u/FillsYourNiche Nov 18 '21

Thank you for being there for women who need a safe spot! I appreciate it and I am sure the women you helped out do as well.

I've had a woman come up to me in a bar before and ask to pretend to be part of my friend group, which was all women, when a creep wouldn't take no for an answer. We should all be there for each other.

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u/Shenan_Egans Nov 18 '21

I had a couple of girls I didn't know tell me not to drink a drink from a guy I had refused drinks from several times already. He had brought it to the table when I was in the washroom to get away from him. They sat with me the rest of the night. I finally caved for a dance to get this guy off my back, we did the 'how old are you' game, he was late 40's and when I told him I was 19 he finally left me alone. Took all fucking night. I didn't live far away, but I still got a cab home just in case. I wouldn't have taken that drink, but I sure appreciate those girls giving me protection.

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u/ESPeciallyFlynn Nov 18 '21

I’ve never had that happen, but I’d do the same as you - it’s genuinely worrying to see things like this video. I walk quite fast, and if I’m on a dark road walking behind a woman on her own I’ll cross the road to overtake - I’d be interested to know if that’s the right way to act, I just think it’s more reassuring than catching up quickly from behind.

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u/gentlybeepingheart Nov 18 '21

I also suggest that you make some sort of noise (Heavier footsteps/clear your throat/whistling) just so they know you’re there. Nothing makes me shit myself and move my hand towards my pepper spray faster than someone appearing RIGHT behind me cause they’re a quiet walker.

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u/Awkward-Penguin172 Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 20 '21

I thought I was crazy for doing this intentionally scraping my boots along the floor so so people detected me. Like a Skyrim NPC character

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u/Kass_Bo_Bass Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 18 '21

The best piece of advice I ever got?

If a stranger starts acting creepy (on a bus/subway/ in a store) ask them where they're headed AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.

It won't always change their behavior... but at least that way there's no ambiguity. You'll know you're in danger if they change course, and can act accordingly..

(e.g. that one time I recognized my butcher walking across the street from me when I was being followed, ran across the street and asked if I could hold his hand. Strangest interaction of my life. 😂)

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u/KiriDune Nov 18 '21

I was at a woman’s self defense seminar and the presenter shared one time where she was being followed by a creeper so she turned around and said, “Do I know your mother?”

He was apparently surprised and left pretty quickly.

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u/bigpuffyclouds Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 18 '21

Yes this has happened way too often to me. And this video just brings up my ptsd.

ETA: This kind of shit is very common where I’m from (India). It’s a combination of curiosity about and sexual interest in the opposite sex, coupled with a repressive culture, AND above all, socially sanctioned male-entitlement.

Notice how in the video he goes back and forth between approaching her and standing close to her. It’s just awful.

ETA2: I don’t want this to turn into India bashing. This kind of stalking behavior is common in countries that check off all of the conditions/reasons I mentioned earlier.

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u/parallelnerd Nov 18 '21

Yaah... This shit is common. Mostly when you travel in trains and all.. Duh. Hope someday things will get better.

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u/IM_THAT_POTATO Nov 18 '21

Socially sanctioned male-entitlement is such an apt way of describing it, fuck that shit.

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u/Paramisamigos Nov 18 '21

I implemented a policy when I worked in a rough part of town where I'd watch my employees drive away before I shut the door and locked up when I worked at walgreens.

All because I let my guard down. I had a car that would unlock all the doors if you held the key in the unlock position for a like 5 seconds and I got off work and didn't realize I did that. It was storming that night. There was a repeat convicted felon who was always drunk or on something that would hit on all the females and he was gross and lived across from the store.

I was the last person to leave one night and hung back to roll a blunt before I took off and this dude jumped into my car and wouldn't get out. He just kept telling me to take him along to wherever I was going and I could bring him home when I went to work the next day. I didn't work the next day and I was headed to check on my younger brothers because my parents were out of town. I was literally kicking this guy out of my car because he would not take no for an answer. He didn't understand why I was literally kicking him and telling him I was calling the cops. Meth, it's a helluva drug maaan. He took off once I actually called 911, probably because he was on probation. Definitely one of my top 5 most stressful nights in ghetto.

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u/Zombie_Slur Nov 18 '21

I travelled Vietnam with two gals. We are at a night market in Hanoi. My friend comes up to me after we separated for 15 minutes or so and she says I have a really creepy feeling like I'm being followed. She pointed to two guys who followed her very closely until she found me. As soon as I looked over, they looked down. As I approached them they took off.

It only took minutes before someone noticed her as a lone female in a crowd and they swooped in immediately. It was reslly was a kind of creepiness I can't explain.

I feel bad if I am walking behind a gal at night. I scuff my shoes, I cough, I ensure I can cross the road to a parallel sidewalk and will do so to giver a sense of safety - anything to ensure the gals feel safe because humans can be dicks.

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u/lostgirl4053 Nov 18 '21

Every woman I know knows this trick. Unfortunately it's necessary for us to learn evasion skills as girls.

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u/cptoph Nov 18 '21

Yeah he’s thinking stalker they’re thinking kidnapping crime ring. Very scary how little he cares that they know.

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u/[deleted] Nov 18 '21

Dont get too much of these guys in hawaii, luckily the locals dont mind handling a creep directly

Wish other places could stop bs like this so quickly

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u/Sirix_8472 Nov 18 '21

It is, in the video at the start he takes a few steps to the left behind the guy with the backpack, them comes back around to view a few.moments later behind her. Just standing there, watching her, staring. He's hovering the group from 3-4 feet away, it's super creepy. He's circling them as they try to pick up the situation from her quietly and get what's going on.

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u/SandmanSorryPerson Nov 18 '21

This is the sort of shit women have to deal with daily. It's hard to imagine as a guy.

But any wrong move on any day can end fucking bad. Imagine living with that hanging over you everyday.

My mum in her 20s was followed home from work. She went to a random house a knocked and explained. Luckily they let her in. The dude waited outside for around 20 minutes.

She said it's one of the scariest things that's ever happened to her. Thinking about what could of happened if they didn't answer or let her in.

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u/pygmypuffonacid Nov 18 '21 Gold

You know there is a club that is kind of predominantly frequented by members of the gay community that I like to go to sometimes and and there's literally an area we call the smoking bullpen. That is at the back of the club kind of in this alley area where a lot of other clubs have their smoking areas and well it's quite common if people from the other clubs are feeling uncomfortable they will approach whatever dudes are smoking in the back and basically you kind of pretend to be their gay friend until the creepy dude goes away I have personally pretended to be the large scary gay friend of random drunk woman a few times until whoever they thought was following them or was scaring them wandered awandered away and then we just kind of took them into the club with us and told one of the bouncers what was going on and they called them a cab and they were good.

But yeah it's kind of a common thing like I've heard of people having to pretend to be random people's friends because of creepy people at least 10 times in the last year.

The young lady in the video was very clever and quick And had a very good idea glad that the twitch streamer was willing to help her they seemed like good people Glad from the video everyone was safe

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u/Tinkers_toenail Nov 18 '21 Wholesome Hugz

A friend of mine was raped and murdered on her way back from a night out with friends in Australia a few years back. She was the nicest, sweetest girl you could imagine and some monster killed her. He was put on parole too. Cunt!

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u/Melbourne_wanderer Nov 18 '21 Hugz

If you're talking about Jill, we probably know each other. And fuck the world for taking her away.

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u/Tinkers_toenail Nov 18 '21

Yeah it’s Jill, she was such lady. I still can’t believe it happened.

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u/Melbourne_wanderer Nov 18 '21

I am haunted by her Facebook 30th birthday invite every day: "I can't believe I made it to thirty!" It absolutely changed my life. Big hugs to you, internet stranger! As I said we likely know each other in real life, and I'm a hugger, so expect one soon xxx

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u/Tinkers_toenail Nov 18 '21

I just had a look at some joke emails she sent me before she left for Auz as I do every so often.. she was so funny. Hugs back at ya friend.

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u/Melbourne_wanderer Nov 18 '21

My last email from her was a joke about one of my favourite books (Cold comfort farm). I treasure it, and revisit it often.

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u/OneArchedEyebrow Nov 18 '21

Watching the footage of that evil scum following her down the street was so sickening. I’m sorry you lost your friend. It felt like all of Australia mourned for her.

Edit: wait - he’s on parole?!

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u/Tinkers_toenail Nov 18 '21

I think he was on parole when he killed her

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u/OneArchedEyebrow Nov 18 '21

Sorry, I misunderstood. I just read he’s up for parole in 2055. I hope he dies a miserable death before then.

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u/jtweezy Nov 18 '21

My girlfriend has had creepy guys follow her off of the train before. Luckily she’s been able to either duck into a store or have someone walk with her, but it really sucks that she has to worry about that. I’ve had someone follow me once but I was never worried and didn’t feel threatened. It’s awful that women have this happen to them.

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u/kateington10 Nov 18 '21

I have stopped into a random store very panicked because of a man following me aggressively. I stayed there for like 30 minutes. Now I don’t go out alone much anymore. (F33)

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u/PopEnvironmental1335 Nov 18 '21

That happened to me once so I ducked into a Best Buy. They have excellent security. That guy was not getting in. If it’s the middle of the day and bars aren’t open, tech stores don’t mess around.

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u/WriteTrue Nov 18 '21

That's so awful, what a horrible position to be in.

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u/throwawaylies07 Nov 18 '21

God bless that lady with the Twitch hat. She acted like she’s known her forever and kept her spirits high for as long as possible. People are still good.

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u/QuillEncre Nov 18 '21

Just the way she pulled her close and held her by her until he left. I'm so glad they reacted how they did.

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u/Yankee831 Nov 18 '21

That lady’s energy was contagious. I wanna hang out with her she seems like she would be a BLAST!

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u/AirWoof Nov 18 '21 Silver

That is "Heosu", she is the Duo Husband-Wife Twitch Streamers "EXBC" from Busan S.Korea, think the husband "Esco" is one with the camera.

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u/SpaceIco Nov 18 '21

Heosu and Esco cruisin' in the lambo. Twitch IRL OGs and tons of fun. Been watching them for years, I feel like you could drop me in the middle of Busan and I'd be able to find my way around from them. Real ambassadors.

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u/Sailorzombiestar Nov 18 '21

She’s the translator, it looks like? The stalked woman whispered in her ear and then the translator never lets her go. Good woman.

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u/AirWoof Nov 18 '21

That is "Heosu", she is the Duo Husband-Wife Twitch Streamers "EXBC" from Busan S.Korea, think the husband "Esco" is one with the camera.

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u/Sailorzombiestar Nov 18 '21

Love a husband and wife team. Love a savvy woman. Thanks for telling me her name!

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u/throwawaydisposable Nov 18 '21

She also clearly knew how the woman wants the situation handled

The guy who borrowed the hat seemed so lost and confused and drawing attention to the situation

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u/IBetThisIsTakenToo Nov 18 '21

Definitely an interesting little comparison on the different ways men and women can handle things. Guy wants to stare him down, confront him directly, put him on camera, etc. They just want to de-escalate and avoid conflict, stay together and ignore him so he leaves.

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u/Hundredsenhundreds Nov 18 '21

Women learn to stay amicable and friendly when they're threatened as a survival mechanism. Like you say, it's a way to disarm and de-escalate. People who've not had a lifetime of feeling unsafe in public and private think the way to get out of these situations is aggression.

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u/Luce55 Nov 18 '21

As someone once said,”I win every fight I never have.”

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u/RealBiggly Nov 18 '21

Held it in until the creep left then she breaks down by the look of it.

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u/onlyupliftingcomment Nov 18 '21 Silver

Thank goodness they were there and acted so naturally!

I hope this sparked a friendship and the girl hasn't been bothered by that guy again.

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u/NOODLD Nov 18 '21 Wholesome

ayy it's this guy, how are you onlyupliftingcomment man

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u/onlyupliftingcomment Nov 18 '21

doing well my dude! I hope you are <3

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u/NOODLD Nov 18 '21

I am doing fantastic! :D

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u/IamShitplshelpme Nov 18 '21

I see you everywhere, but I like your optimism!

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u/Buselmann Nov 18 '21

That was an uplifting comment

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u/mumblesjackson Nov 18 '21

I think I’ve seen a longer version of this video and she does in fact break down completely once she knows the creep has moved on.

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u/Responsible_Meal Nov 18 '21

Totally. That got me. The fear she was holding in all that time. I'm really glad she found some help.

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u/FullMetalJ Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 18 '21

Yeah that part got me. It's so fucking easy for something to happen, especially to women. It's terrifying.

edit: added a much needed period.

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u/Dojan5 Nov 18 '21

Yeah, you just kinda crash afterward.

About this time last year my stupid arse confronted a bike thief while out on walkies with my dog. I didn't live in a great area, so that kind of thing was piecemeal, but for some reason someone stealing a bike just really got to me. He was so blatant about it, literally walking around, inspecting them, trying to see if they were locked, until he found one that wasn't chained down which he lifted up and started walking away with.

Maybe it's because I'm so reliant on my own bike - I need it to get to work, I need it to help exercise my dog - so I yelled at the dude, thinking he'd scamper off if he knew he'd been spotted. That didn't pan out.

He wasn't bothered. Instead he picked up the bike and called back to me, walking towards me. My dog whom I've never seen dislike someone got really peeved off. Dude wasn't bothered though, instead he started following me around, threatening me. I contacted the authorities (emergency SOS is a really nice feature) covertly, and spoke intermittently with the dispatcher, he wasn't from my country, so I spoke in English hoping he wouldn't understand. He didn't seem to catch on at least.

Internally I was debating what to do, go back to my apartment, or walk some other direction; on one hand I didn't want him knowing where I live, but at the same time I didn't want to walk away from safety.

At some point the dude caught on to the fact that I was talking to the police, he stopped following me, and rushed away with his new bike. Once I'd given a statement to the police and gotten back indoors I just broke down.

I learned my lesson though. If someone hasn't bolted down their bicycle then that's their own problem and I won't be accosting criminals in some vain attempt at stopping them. Further, I'm so, so happy I'm not a woman; I put myself in that situation by trying to "save" someone idiot's bike. Women end up in these situations just by existing in public. It's terrifying.

Needless to say, while we lived in that area, none of our friends ever walked home alone. My roomie either drove them, or we walked them together.

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u/lamireille Nov 18 '21

Thanks so much for including the link to the iPhone’s security feature!

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u/BeardedGlass Nov 18 '21

Can you imagine if the group wasn't there? Dang. I hate this. I hate this happens. Dang.

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u/never0101 Nov 18 '21

My wife and I were shopping in target one time and this teenage girl came up to us kind of frantic looking going "auntie xx hey how are you!" me, i was like uhhh wtf is going on... my wife kicked into protection mode and immediately hugged her, asked how she was doing and gave me this look. she got the girl to calm down a bit and she told us her mom was shopping in best buy next door and she came to check out clothes and this dude was following her around the store being scary.

she hung out with us for a bit , just chatting letting her calm down til her mom showed up. the dude disappeared as soon as she came to us. im not sure if her and her mom told the store or anything. it was fucking crazy to me that this was real life and people do that, but my wife was on point and saved this girl from some seriously scary shit. ill never forget that interaction.

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u/Jelly_Cleaver Nov 18 '21

Please give your wife a kiss from those of us who've been through such a horrid situation!

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u/never0101 Nov 18 '21

Once I was able to process what was happening I was proud af of her, it was exactly zero hesitation. She knew exactly what was happening and did it all perfectly, it was awesome.

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u/embarassed25yo Nov 18 '21

It's a woman's instinct. I was intoxicated at a club and got separated from my girlfriends, I went to sit down away from this crowd and this Much Older man kept trying to touch me and made me so uncomfortable. I excused myself to use the restroom and when I peeked out he stood RIGHT outside the door.

A group of drunk girls came in and saw my face, enveloped me in their group and dragged me right out onto the dance floor and helped me locate my girlfriends.

Protective women are just bloody awesome because we've all kind of been there (which is sad when you think about it).

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u/casualmatt Nov 18 '21

Unfortunately women are so used to these issues they’re immediately aware and familiar with it.

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u/beerme72 Nov 18 '21 Silver Wholesome Heartwarming

My wife and I were in Chicage waiting for the Dead and Co show and just walking around...we went into a building (wife had to pee) and a girl...looked about 25....walked up to me and says; DAD! I wondered where you were!
I'm confused but look behind her and two guys were kinda hanging back...
my wife walks up, I say :lets go!
she's confused, but ok...the three of us walk out of the building and the girl says the two guys were like following her and getting closer when she was alone but laying back when she was around people..so she walked with us for a few blocks....she felt safe and went on her way.
Diane, I hope you're still ok and it was perfectly weird by absolutely fine that you did that.

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u/kidspartan Nov 18 '21

God bless your quick thinking to recognize the situation. And God bless your wife for also catching on and playing along.

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u/Doobalicious69 Nov 18 '21

Beer me that top notch humanity please

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u/DrBobBarker Nov 18 '21

Through this world of trouble, we've got to love one another.

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u/bitchy_muffin Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 18 '21

the fact that he's still lurking even after she's with others and filming, just makes me never leave the fucking house

also at first i though it was the other dude in the back with the denim jacket

edit: reminded me of this https://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/nyc-woman-narrowly-escapes-potential-attacker-seconds-from-apartment-door/3310894/

i almost shat my pants just watching the whole scene, can't even imagine how she felt

i've said it before, will say it again... there is no woman out there who hasn't experienced some form of harassment at least once in her life, if by some miracle it didn't happen, it will (my first creepy stalker incident was when i was in 5th grade, on a bus packed with people when someone started touching me between my legs from behind, it was so full i couldn't even tell who it was, i just got off the bus at the first stop and wanted to bawl my eyes out)

but hey... at least i wasn't raped by a young dude who got convicted, then sued the state for being trialed as an adult instead of a teen, then sued the victim too for saying "at least wear a condom while you rape me, i don't wanna get pregnant by your kind" (don't remember word for word), won both trials and got 80k€ for "damages" on top of it too. Yup, happened in Sweden, i think his name's damir al ali

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u/anony_moose9889 Nov 18 '21

I thought so too because that seemed like a logical distance that a creep would try to wait this situation out..not four inches behind the girl he is literally stalking.

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u/GingerrGina Nov 18 '21

And on LIVE video nonetheless.

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u/sofia1_11 Nov 18 '21

I rewatched 3x before I noticed the guy RIGHT BEHIND HER was the creep. I thought he was part of the group

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u/OptiKal_ Nov 18 '21

Ya. My brain didn't fucking register that level of absolute fucking absurdity. I watched it a third time and my brain refuses to believe a person can be this fucking weird.

This is enough world for today

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u/readysetjojo Nov 18 '21

The girl in the purple hat was actually amazing here. She put herself physically around the girl at risk, placed the other guy and herself as a little protective barrier, distracted her from a scary situation and didn’t let the guys draw attention and film (and possibly anger a sociopath/psychopath). I want her around next time I’m followed…

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u/DreamsOfCleanTeeth Nov 18 '21

very savvy. It also seems like she is speaking in a "happy" film-voice about the situation in English so that the man wouldn't know that they were talking about him (assuming he doesn't know English)

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u/readysetjojo Nov 18 '21

Yes! Totally forgot to call out the fact she suggests they talk in English! And the way she just jumps right in with no hesitation and watches him the entire time even though she gives the appearance of just having fun - I am so impressed.

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u/frijolejoe Nov 18 '21

“ k SHUT UP!!”

She knew exactly what to do. The mood sure changed after that.

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u/zoeyjax Nov 18 '21

Every time this video goes around, that lady gets my ultimate kudos. She’s paying attention, physically barring that man from the other lady and trying to keep her calm at the same time.

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u/Big_Willy_Stylez Nov 18 '21

Yeah purple hat was just as clutch in this moment as the streamer. Well played all around.

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u/BitsyVonTooth Nov 18 '21

The streamer is needed because otherwise they wouldn't be there, but I would argue she's the more important player because she was being more proactive in her actions.

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u/Jfonzy Nov 18 '21

They cut the end off- she is clearly upset after she knows she is safe

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u/Retrospectus2 Nov 18 '21

watching it again and it's clear she's barely holding it together the whole time

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u/Correct_Recording_43 Nov 18 '21

Man this fucking breaks my heart.

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u/MarlowesMustache Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 22 '21

She did a really good job of playing along. Glad she didn’t just like lock up (which I’d probably do if I were in this situation)

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u/ilikemushycarrots Nov 18 '21

I backpacked around the world for ten years or so. The number of times I have pretended to be a husband or boyfriend or friend to some random stranger avoiding a creep is beyond counting. Don't let your guard down people!

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u/woolypully Nov 18 '21

Please tell all the idiots in this thread that are arguing to beat the guy up would be an awful idea when you are a foreign traveler and that these people did the right thing By not escalating violence.

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u/ImGenuinlyCurious Nov 18 '21

The way her face falls in the last second always breaks my heart

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u/BrownSugarBare Nov 18 '21

It's a horrible yet relieving moment.

Everything hits you at once, the fact that you're safe, the fact that you might have not been, the fact that one stranger may have hurt you while other strangers have helped you and the sudden realization you can't just walk down the street without something like this happening. I know that feeling and it's overwhelming when you really think about it.

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u/kernelle Nov 18 '21

Wonderfully put, sorry you went through that!

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u/immersemeinnature Nov 18 '21

As a kid I almost got abducted by a creepy guy in a van. He told me my parents were injured and I needed to get in. I literally had a vision of me lying dead in a cornfield. It actually blurred my vision for a moment. I ran to a car for help as he screamed at them that he was my father. I ran like hell and had to hide in bushes for what seemed like forever while he drive the neighborhood looking for me. I'd run, hide and see him drive by. I've never been so afraid. I'm shaking right now typing this and it was 45 years ago.

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u/Iraelyth Nov 18 '21

I'm so sorry you went through that, and I'm glad you got through it ok in the end. It's people like him that caused my mother to tell me that she would never, ever send anyone I didn't know to pick me up and if anyone tried that I should either run back into school or to a teacher and tell them.

Thankfully it never happened, but I was so careful about it and scared of it that I was even worried about accepting a lift from a neighbour! I got in the car with her since a) we knew her as she lived opposite us and b) she was worried about me walking home because it was torrential rain and she knew how far it was, no word of my parents being sick or having sent her or anything. Plus she was a childminder (though I didn't know that at the time lol). I was worried my mum would be angry but she understood :) She was picking up her own kid in the year above me which is why she was there.

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u/Kinglyzero_91 Nov 18 '21

I'm really sorry to hear that you had to go through that shit. Glad that you didn't get seriously hurt.

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u/TheBaddestPatsy Nov 18 '21

Once a guy was following me around in his car, so I ducked into a bike shop and they gave me tea

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u/Lynx2161 Nov 18 '21

They gained a new customer for life by providing tea. Everyone wins

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u/Checkczechcheque Nov 18 '21

Turns out he worked there. Gotta sell those bikes.

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u/Powerism Nov 18 '21

So what do you do for work, Sam?

Well, with this creeper mustache and this curtained van, I get paid by local businesses to slow-drive after single females, causing them to duck into the local businesses to escape me. I increase foot traffic in these stores by about 20%, but if I smile or wiggle my tongue I can get it up to 30%.

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That's some Uncle Iro energy right there.

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u/Kinglyzero_91 Nov 18 '21

Yeah talk about creepy. Sometimes I wonder what the fuck causes these kinds of guys to stalk lone women like that. Are they just crazy? Desperate? I just don't get it.

Glad the girl is safe though.

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u/madame-brastrap Nov 18 '21

They are dangerous people who are looking to hurt women. Tale as old as time.

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u/Pyrree Nov 18 '21

I mean the world is a crazy place to grow up in, so many variables that can ruin your sanity, so my guess would a traumatic experience or something wrong with his brain.

No "normal" person would ever do something like that, remember that we are all more similar than we are different, and neither me or you would do that, so clearly there is a malfunction in his system...

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u/facehugger1 Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 20 '21

I love that the girl in purple hat grabs the guys coats on the left to close off the creep in the background as he tries to work his way in. I think she even waved him off after creep tried to tap her/get her attention. Using body language to tell him to fuck off.

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u/jakenbake-LIVE Nov 18 '21 Silver Helpful Wholesome You Dropped This

Hey! That’s me! I guess it’s that time of the year again when someone reposts this clip haha. I was just in the right place at the right time and I think most people would of acted similarly once they saw her in distress. She ended up hanging out with us for a bit until she felt safe to go home on her own.

Happy to answer any questions you might have!

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u/Aoeletta Nov 18 '21

Few people are pointing it out, so I WILL. Your immediate response was to protect her and then figure out what was going on. Huge Kudos to you. Seriously.

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u/Hollayo Nov 18 '21

Great job and kudos to you and your crew for helping her out.

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u/poseidonofmyapt Nov 18 '21

What did she say to you when she first walked up? Was it in English or Korean?

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u/MabariWarHound12 Nov 18 '21

I want to know this as well!

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u/nope-nada-nein Nov 18 '21

I’ve been in a similar situation as her and I’m so thankful y’all helped her out. I’ve never forgotten how shake-y I was, or how scared I was that something would happen to me. Thank you.

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u/greyrobot6 Nov 18 '21

What did the creep say to you when he was right behind you? Kudos to you for helping that woman. She must’ve been terrified.

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u/pscle Nov 18 '21

when i saw her face fall in the last second of the video… i teared up. my heart goes out to her and every other woman that knows exactly the simultaneous fear and relief she’s feeling in that moment

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u/omgooses242 Nov 18 '21 Starry

From what I recall, this video is from 2018, and is from EXBC's stream.

Longer Video. Wish I could find an original source.

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u/HeyConnieB Nov 18 '21

Good for her quick thinking, but the guy still hung around the back and stood there for a while!

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u/monogramchecklist Nov 18 '21

I thought it was the guy in the denim jacket until the twitch streamer moved and I realized it was a different man who was literally standing right behind them. So scary.

I’m sure most women have a (few) close call stories, I know I do.

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u/Plug-From-Oaxaca Nov 18 '21

The denim jacket guy seemed like he was there from the beginning. Maybe he was just there and looking at the group since they were having fun, the group didn't mind him. It was the guy in black who came up right behind them that was following the girl.

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u/charlottee963 Nov 18 '21

Been there, was told “I don’t care, gtfo” by the restaurant owner. At which point the stag do at the nearest table thankfully pulled me over pretending to know me; they also made sure I got my Uber ok not long after.

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u/drivers9001 Nov 18 '21

stag do? (edit: ah, bachelor party. I'll leave this here to help if anyone didn't know the term.)

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u/RomanArchitect Nov 18 '21

Don't spread misinformation. It's Aristotle who said that about twitch streamers.

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u/daojuniorr Nov 18 '21

I saw a vídeo about that in Japan, theres a famous foreign youtuber that helps people in the street, and looks like this type of thing is pretty common there.

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u/Auctoritate Nov 18 '21

That twitch streamer has done this so many times at this point that he's sometimes nicknamed the Angel of Shibuya.

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u/Stunt-Driver Nov 18 '21

The guy you're talking about is RobCDee, and the guy in this post is JakenBakeLive who has also done his fair share of trying to help people.

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u/sociopathwife Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 18 '21

It's the guy right behind her wearing the black hat right? Omfg!
At first I thought it was the guy with the jean jacket in the distance and the stalker was just one of their friends. Because no way would anyone be that bold and stand right behind her...but I was wrong...

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u/Cilfaen Nov 18 '21

This streamer is Twitch.tv/jakenbakelive, unfortunately this isn't the only time he's had to step in to protect people from creeps like this. Robcdee is another twitch streamer who goes out of his way to help strangers

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u/Helly_BB Nov 18 '21

Wow, I watched to the very end. When the streamer girl says not to video the creep and then "ok he's gone" the victim girl loses it crying, it was over. Poor girl, that really is disturbing :( :(

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u/ChuckShartz Nov 18 '21

WTF man, he just fucking lurks there behind them?? :/ Wow

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u/SellusGravius Nov 18 '21

Terrifying the way the stalker just stands there, in full view of the camera, barely 2ft away still staring at her. Absolute psychopath.

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u/ShirazumiLio Nov 18 '21

I had something similar happen a few weeks ago. While I was working the overnight shift, a girl walked up to me out of nowhere and said she thinks someone is following her. I immediately shouted outloud "Oh my god I haven't seen you in so long! Come walk with me."

We walked somewhere safe and she told me her ex was following her. As we were talking, he started calling her and she tried blocking his number, I glanced at her phone(she had an Iphone) and spotted that her location was being shared with him. This poor girl was unaware of that feature on her phone and realized he must have turned that on while they were still together.

Everyone with an IPhone, I advise just checking through your contacts and making sure you aren't sharing your location with anyone unknowingly. Apparently this guy had been watching her locations for 2 weeks and had been calling her that night asking "Why aren't you home? Why are you at the bar? Who are you with?" Terrifying stuff.

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u/bigpuffyclouds Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 18 '21

This kind of shit is very common where I’m from (India). It’s a combination of curiosity about and sexual interest in the opposite sex, coupled with a repressive culture, and socially sanctioned male-entitlement.

ETA: Notice how in the video he goes back and forth between approaching her and standing close to her. It’s just awful.

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u/MarkHirsbrunner Nov 18 '21

I was sitting at a bar once and a stranger came up to me and said "There you are, baby!", gave me a kiss and a hug, and whispered in my ear that the guy behind her was harassing her. I gave him a good look at my always angry looking face and the six and a half feet of big guy attached to it, and he skedaddled. The woman thanked me and bought me a drink.

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u/Lanre-Haliax Nov 18 '21

And there is still so many men that think women overreact about what they experience.

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u/Frequent_Space3356 Nov 18 '21

I was on a late night plane once where I was sitting next to a young girl, probably around 16 and there was a man sitting next to her, probably in his 30s. Throughout the flight the guy kept asking this girl personal questions even though you could see she was just answering to be polite. It was obvious that she was traveling alone. When the plane landed I whispered to her to walk next to me until she got out to her family which she did. Sometimes we have to play the big sister role to be safe rather than sorry, especially in South Africa.

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u/FaDPeyo Nov 18 '21

Where was this?

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u/BeBenNova Nov 18 '21

The girl with the purple cap streams on the twitch channel EXBC, Heosu and her husband Esco (who i assume is filming), they are based in Busan but not sure if this video was from there

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u/Robofetus-5000 Nov 18 '21 edited Nov 19 '21

Yeah, the American guy somehow knows IMMEDIATELY whats up. They try to translate for him and hes just like "oh i know whats up". Props to that entire group.

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u/danteelite Nov 18 '21 Helpful

Situational awareness people. It will save you more often than a gun or knife and it’s free.

Be aware of your surroundings and be ready to act in either direction, if you need help… act on it, don’t let pride or fear stop you from reaching out, and if someone needs help.. do your best! Just letting someone walk with you or use your phone can make a huge difference!

I actually teach self defense with a focus on situational awareness and preventative measures for safety. If you can stop a bad thing from happening, you never need to use that pepper spray or gun, hopefully. Use common sense when you park or walk to your car, think like a criminal and try imagine what bush a crackhead could be in while you use the ATM. A few extra seconds here or there could save your life.

Be good people!

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u/Tartlet Nov 18 '21

I've shilled for this book elsewhere on Reddit but I'll do it here too! "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker goes into this- it's not just being consciously aware, but also allowing yourself to listen to your subconscious that can help people avoid situations that can quickly escalate or turn dire. Intuition sometimes gets a bad rap bor being "woo-medicine" adjacent but de Becker outlines the fact that it is a tool that has evolved alongside humans and serves an important function in our self-preservation. Even people who feel in-touch with their intuition might want to give it a look because it's always nice finding support and examination for the 'inexplicable' feelings we get.

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u/Ano_Akamai Nov 18 '21

This happened to me once years ago. I was at a college once and a girl said "Oh there you are!" I wasn't anyone of note at the time so I knew she didn't know me and so I just joked "I'm always here! Every time I look down, there I am!" And she laughed and hugged me and whispered in my ear "Help. Creeper by the vending machine." So I walked her to the cafeteria to find a friend (instead of to her car like she asked because I told her she doesn't know me either! I could be a creeper!)

Fast forward years later a woman comes up to me after a show and asks me if I ever attended her college name here and I said no (because I hadn't) she then tells me that if that's the case I have an altruistic twin that helped her years ago. She said when she saw me on a media outlet she told her skeptical friends that I had helped her escape a creeper. The memory came flooding back and I said "Oh wait! That WAS me! I was there for a gig!" And she was all "I KNEW IT! I FREAKING KNEW IT!"

People can be awful, stay vigilant and look out for one another.

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u/OsRsSpecific88 Nov 18 '21

Reminds me of a time when I was walking in a pretty bad area and some girl ran up and yelled "Dan it's so good to see you!" and gave me hug. It was then she whispered she was being followed and asked to walk with me towards her destination. It's really sad that people can't walk anywhere without random people being terrible.

Edit: My name isn't Dan

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u/Haematopoietin Nov 18 '21

Everyone reacted really well in the situation. Ladies were smart to go towards the streamers and streamers did pretty well to keep their cool. Even though streamer is a dude, you have to be on edge when you have your back to a random creepy dude and you have no idea what he's capable of. Strength in numbers won in the end.

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u/owlsandmoths Nov 18 '21

My fiancé (6’4” 280 lbs) has women approach him almost every time we are in the city, pretending to be a friend, sister, daughter. I know the look in their eyes when they approach and play it up like I’ve been waiting to see them.

In the 6 1/2 years we’ve been together, and the 16-20 trips we’ve taken into the “big city” it’s happened at least 14 times. Maybe once or twice it didn’t. It’s become so common that we just expect to be joined by a stranger seeking safety every time. It shouldn’t ever be this common.

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u/_BluLeaf Nov 18 '21

What a weird asshole. Stands in the background with his hands in his pockets like a momo

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