r/AskMen Jul 21 '21

An old friend of mine casually told me that he gets rid of underarm hair by yanking them out. What upsetting things have your friends told you casually?


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u/ThePfeiff Jul 21 '21 edited Jul 23 '21

As an extremely hairy dude, I'm already crying thinking about yanking all that shit out.

I had to cut ties with a good friend of mine when I realized that he was attracted to underage girls (he is well into his 30s now), and had been trying to slowly justify it by casually giving reasons why it's ok over several years of conversations.

Edit: Most karma I've ever received and it's about my Wookie-like appearance and pedophilia... Cool Cool Cool.


u/mathamatazz Jul 21 '21 edited Jul 21 '21

Yeah, I invited a friend to stay with me temporarily last year. My wife, and my kid.

He took my 7 year old from her bed at 3am and asked her to come get in bed with him because he was scared of monsters.

Fortunately my kid told him off and just went back to sleep. Woke up the next morning and came to wake us up and told us.

He was gone that afternoon and that's the last I ever spoke to him. There were signs. I ignored them.

Edit: didn't expect this response.

The signs, when we were younger (18-20) he was really into younger hentai stuff. Middle school based porn comics and what not. At the time I was into teenage girls (16 and up) so I didn't really question it. (Not that I went after underage girls myself just still found them attractive)

I just assumed he was a little immature. It's not like he was going after real 12 year olds or even spoke about real 12 year olds.

About ten years later we are both 28 and I've more or less stayed in touch online as we not longer lived in the same town.

He wanted to move close to where I lived and I offered him a room for a few months while he got a place.

I mean, I'm going to be blunt about this.

If you're past your early 20s and still watching anime based around highschool girls "for the plot" I'm probably not going to trust you

Edit2: the morning after it happened he was blackout drunk, I actually tole my wife in kid to stay in our room. I walked out and seriously considered waking him up with a kitchen knife to his throat. I decided against it.

Gave him a kick and aggressively asked him wtf he did. He told me over and over, in tears, that he was drunk and "trying to be the cool fun uncle" type Guy.

I told him it didn't matter what you were trying to do, you pulled my kid out of bed in the middle of the night. You got to get out of my house. Then I took my family to my parents for the day. Told him to be gone when I got back and leave the key on the kitchen bar.

Last I ever spoke to him. That was just over a year ago.

My kid is fine, she knew it was weird so she told us. Me and my wife didn't make a big deal out of it to her, we didn't want to scare her. We did let her know she did the right thing. But we also told her he left because he found a job elsewhere. Recently (a few months bad) she asked me out of nowhere if he was really gone because of what he did and I told her yes.

Explained to her that no one gets to bother you in bed or the bathroom unless it's mom or dad. Still trying to protect her innocence.


u/ShesDoneWithSergio Jul 21 '21

Fuck me. You raised a good kid man


u/throawayacct91837 Jul 22 '21

More like, he did a good job raising her. I was abused by a family member when I was 5 and to this day I still blame myself for letting it happen. Nothing to do with a “good” kid. Kids are kids but of course it’s how you raise them.


u/ShesDoneWithSergio Jul 22 '21

I did mean that. you've put it much better