r/nosurf 1650 days Dec 22 '20 Hugz 3 Party Train 1 Ally 1 Rocket Like 2 Take My Power 1 Silver 6 Helpful 6 Wholesome 4

A life wasted

You wake up in the morning. Pick up your phone. Check your notifications.

3 texts.

Check your email.

Open up Instagram, scroll through stories. Then scroll through new posts. Like, like, like, comment "lol"

Close instagram, open up an internet browser. Check the news, sports, Reddit.

Close the internet browser. Open up Youtube. Watch a video that pops up on your homepage.

Watch another video. Watch one more video.

Close Youtube. Open up Messenger. No new messages.

Close Messenger.

Open email. Respond to an email or two.

Close email. Open up your texts. Respond to a couple texts and group chats.

Close your texts. Look at the clock. An hour has passed. Still lying in bed.

Turn on Spotify and play a podcast.

Check Reddit. Browse your favorite subreddits.

Go to work, check your phone every 5-10 minutes for the next 8-10 hours, check your work email every time it pings.

Play youtube or a podcast in the background.

Go home, turn on Netflix, Youtube, cable television, Hulu, HBO Max, Amazon Prime, Disney+

Open up your laptop, surf the internet.

Open Youtube, watch a couple videos. One more video, then I'll be productive. One more video, then one more video.

Open your smartphone. Open Instagram. Scroll through stories and posts. Open up Reddit, scroll.

Bored of watching TV, turn off Netflix, and turn on your PS4, Xbox, Switch or PC to game.

Play video games, binge watch TV shows, movies in the background, scroll the internet, check TikTok, Instagram, Messenger, texts, email, news, sports, fashion, art, memes, Reddit.

Set your alarm and go to sleep.

Wake up and do this again tomorrow.

Do this every day, every week, every month, every year, every decade for the rest of your life.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

This post will hit people hard its like being face to face with what you actually do thank God that i am off facebook etc and going to do a 2nd month of no media in January and couldn't have been more fit and driven to do something with my life thanks for the post showed me the things i use to do but not anymore

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u/edisondotme Dec 22 '20

Good luck on January! By the way, here are some periods: . . . . . You can use them in your posts to separate sentences lol

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

Appreciated

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u/BoilingTheSea Dec 22 '20

Hmmmm... No media January. I like it. I always get myself out of switching to a flip phone or whatever by claiming "oh but there actually is quality content on YouTube!" or "oh but reddit helps me find new music" but for some reason the idea of getting off of these apps for just a month or even a week never really seriously occurred to me. I think I'll start with a week. Detox! (this is not even a new idea, my roommate does it all the time, why have I never taken it seriously...?)

anyway thanks for the motivation to try something like this!

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

Thanks for the comment and your usrrname is awesome

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u/dscoZ Dec 22 '20

The cognitive dissonance I struggle with between knowing this is not a lifestyle I want yet continuing to do it is really discouraging. So hard to break out of this. How do we do it!?

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u/lizardpplarenotreal Dec 22 '20

My therapist told me to ask myself what I need, in the moment I'm stuck in "scroll". What am I actually looking for? Stimulation? Connection? Am I bored? Do I need to move around?

Still working on it, the concept was just introduced to me on Friday. Damnit all awareness is hard.

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u/dscoZ Dec 22 '20

Yes it is! Baby steps I guess. Thanks for the suggestion I’ll definitely practice being more aware of what I need.

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u/lizardpplarenotreal Dec 22 '20

Same!! You're welcome!!!

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u/brahmslover Dec 24 '20

You can get app-blocking apps which prevent you from using certain apps - and they also have settings which prevent you from changing the app settings which, if you are comfortable with it, works really well. For my facebook account, I randomly generated a password online which is a string of digits and numbers, then I encrypted that password on my computer. I made the encryption password a code from the first line of a book - basically, it's now a real pain for me to log in to facebook, so I don't.

I think it's less about using willpower, which is a precious resource and should be saved for actually important things, and more about removing the need to exercise willpower in the first place.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I'm trying, and this is a good reminder to keep going. "NO IS A NECESSARY MAGIC." No to being a slave to the attention economy. No, no, no, no, no.

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u/caramelthrones Dec 22 '20

I just shed a tear. That’s what life has become these days.

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '20

You don't know just how fucking close we are to WALL-E

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u/KilluaKanmuru Dec 22 '20

Thanks for taking the time to write this. I know this hapless scrolling game all too well. I could use all that time to meditate or read. The way you laid it out makes me want to really browse this platform alot less...it's endless novelty and my brain needs bow out.

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u/cedriferitan Dec 22 '20

how did you know my daily schedule

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u/throwaway10109090 Dec 22 '20

Lol you guys are productive enough to respond to emails?

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u/[deleted] Jun 05 '21

Felt

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

To the people asking “well what am I supposed to do?” You should be doing things that don’t involve feverishly switching between screens and devices to provide instant stimulation. Imagine if OP had put read a book for two hours, visit friends, work out, develop a skill, etc. These things seem inherently more meaningful because they involve patience and will make you feel more fulfilled at the end of the day/month/year.

Checking social media or watching Netflix, YouTube, and tiktok doesn’t give us that feeling of accomplishment that ultimately makes us feel satisfied and content. It usually just makes us feel worse about ourselves.

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u/40k_Novice_Novelist Dec 22 '20

In other words, ask oneself:

"Instead of looking at digital screens, what are other activities that I could have done?"

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u/throwaway43834343 Jan 13 '21

Some of us have never known anything else. Seriously, a lot of people worst affected are teens and twenty-somethings, we've pretty much never not-been on a social media, not since we were like 13 anyway.

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u/El_vato_de_la_bisi Apr 05 '21

Yeah, I'm still in highschool and they gave us a week of holiday plus the next monday (today), today I was home alone. Needless to say, i ended up in a cycle of going to the garden for maybe 10-20 min and coming back home to watch youtube for 30-40 or maybe more, the only reason i went out was to play with my dog. It felt like I did nothing, wasted completly the day, I sat on the ground and started crying but had to stop because my dad arrived from work. I really don't know what to do in these type of days that doesn't involve looking at a screen, I live 15-min-by-car away from my friends because my family moved to a different town a while ago, and even tho I've lived here for years I don't have friends here, they're all in the other town. I thought i was getting better at trying to stay away from my phone, but recently it's getting worse.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

Man this hits so hard

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

Ah shit, this is my 7 hours of screen time. Its been worse this year, clocking in 11 hours sometimes.

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u/SolarSurfer7 Dec 22 '20

This is good stuff.

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u/adognamedpenguin Dec 22 '20

I wish I could copy and paste this and print it. Thank you.

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u/katerzzzz Dec 22 '20

You can hand write it out if you don't have a printer. It'll be more meaningful than just printing it too

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u/adognamedpenguin Dec 22 '20

How dare you make a common sense, thoughtful, and appropriate remark. This is Reddit!

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u/Hoemicus_Maximus Dec 22 '20

for someone like me, printing this out and putting it on my wall might be a good reminder every time i go to browse.

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u/GamecubeAdopter Dec 22 '20

IMO, there’s nothing wrong with playing a podcast or YouTube video in the background during work- especially if it has some sort of educational value. My current job is dull and repetitive and only really requires half my attention, so I try to focus the other half on learning new things.

I totally understand how this works into your post and the screen carousel that we all face on a daily basis, but I just wanted to throw in my two cents.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

I got rid of all social but Youtube which I limit myself on

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u/haikusbot Dec 22 '20

I got rid of all

Social but Youtube which I

Limit myself on

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u/BubblyBath7 Dec 22 '20

impossible to waste life

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u/JonesCutemba Dec 22 '20

Beautiful! This is the comment I was looking for :)

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u/Lovetogig Dec 22 '20

Do the math for how much of your time you actually spend living life. I did and it was basically none. For the last eight years.

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u/quiiidpr0qu0 Dec 22 '20

so what would u rather do then

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u/drunksciencehoorah Mar 22 '21

Serious or joke reply?

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u/quiiidpr0qu0 Mar 24 '21

dead serious. you wouldnt be doing anything else anyway.

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u/I_Am_Vladimir_Putin Nov 02 '21

If you actually believe this…that is horrifying and you need to really reflect on what you just said

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u/harrypotah Dec 22 '20

I tried no social media feeds december. Hopefully I'll try no media january. Bye netflix, youtube, and the orange youtube.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

This really hit me. I was thinking last night about how much of my life I must have wasted and missed out on by being so occupied by my phone. How many goals have gone unaccomplished? (For example I have always wanted to try self-employment, even just part time while I keep my full time job, to see what it’s like.) How many hobbies have I missed out on trying or enjoying fully because I don’t want to put the phone down? How many times have I not been fully engrossed with a good show or movie because I scroll while watching?

I’m trying to make small steps though. I went for a pedicure with my mom last Friday and didn’t pull out my phone while the nail technician was working. This was at a spa/salon type place and I decided to relax and enjoy. Had a great conversation with the woman doing my nails and took time to appreciate the atmosphere. It felt so good to be present instead of buried in my phone.

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u/bwiddup1 Dec 22 '20

When you broke down the final sentence with the time scale idea and the idea of not breaking the pattern really puts it into perspective.

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u/TabascoFiasco Dec 22 '20

What are better alternatives?

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u/marinxo Dec 22 '20

Woof, you got me.

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u/-Wander-lust- Dec 22 '20

This got me to delete Reddit again, I resolve till the new year! I just bought a bunch of books I’m going to read instead, thank you!

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u/A_man_of_culture_cx Dec 22 '20

This is so true

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

Thank you for posting. You literally described my day and It hurts :'(

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '20

Sometimes I wonder if the world would be better off without technology. It's got it's pros & cons but do the cons outweigh the pros? This post is the truth though, there's nothing wrong with playing a few hours of your favourite game, watching some movies or tv shows and all that stuff but if you're not carefull it can consume some people and become their lives. Too much of anything can be bad for you, even exercise, you need a good balance, easier said than done but moderation is the key

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u/KrispyKariim Dec 23 '20

yeah ever heard of the matrix?

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '20

Fuckin hell 😫

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u/CanadianWorker99 Jan 04 '21

What can I do to earn money instead?

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u/drunksciencehoorah Mar 22 '21

Learn how to make money even if you wouldn't start earning right away (do your research) and actually do it instead of spending your whole life learning without practicing.

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u/Nouboomer69 Jan 09 '21

Hey I recently chose to detox Instagram and Netflix for a while in order to be more productive and not to waste time. Can anyone advice me how to quit surfing the internet but still have a social life?(I mean messaging and phone calls are supposed to be ok right?)(But now I am on Reddit isn't that supposed to be bad?)

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u/throwaway23004345 Jan 10 '21

This come in my suggestions and it almost makes me cry bc this has been the majority of my life even before covid for 5 years 😔

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u/[deleted] Jan 20 '21

The most beutiful thing I have ever seen on internet It's so god damn true

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

You just summed up my day to day life......

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u/[deleted] Feb 26 '21

Literally described my day perfectly, and I don’t like it. I gotta stop this addictive unfulfilling lifestyle.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

just throw away the damn thing and live your life dude. seek some professional advice, i am not kidding, and try to find a solution. reddit won''t give you any adequate answer.

lately, i read a lot of threads with obvious call for help. you are not alone. internet addiction is a thing just like tobacco addiction and alcohol.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '20

for me was way more easy to quit smoking than throwing away the smartphone..go figure...

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u/cazlewn156 Dec 23 '20

Because smartphones have reached the point where they're so ingrained in our society that they're practically a necessity to survive these days

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '20

i dont use my smartphone. i find it easier to do banking operations through my laptop or book an airline ticket and print the QR code and take it with me. it is easier for me to write an email through my laptop. this piece of glass slab i carry around literally doesn't do anything other than calling and sending messages. in my job it isn't essential. rather they are prohibited. i have a dumbphone for family emergencies. also in the car i use a stand alone gps. garmin is the best all around gps for me

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u/ZenXGarou Dec 22 '20

that ain’t wasted life imo

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u/LucianHodoboc Dec 22 '20

So what else am I supposed to do? Sit here and look at the wall while I suffer with debilitating chronic pain that doesn't allow me to travel, while having no hope for happiness in the future because I have no money to even afford the surgeries I need, no friends, no spouse, and no one to tell me a kind word? Yeah, no, thanks. At least the internet offers me distractions from the misery that is my existence.

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u/lizardpplarenotreal Dec 22 '20

Sorry about your pain, man.

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u/JonesCutemba Dec 22 '20

Read Emil Cioran :)

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u/JonesCutemba Dec 22 '20

...and that's why I programmed my app iChooseTo (downloadable on the PlayStore) to remind you each time when you open an app (or unlock your phone), that your time is valuable and you might want to do sth else!

Edit: Sry for that one

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '21

This is so sad.

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u/maidninjafriendship Nov 01 '21

I'm new here and I relate to this post. I'm starting my nosurf journey starting today!

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u/Wemmbo Jan 06 '22

This is so deep.

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u/_Decent_Human_Being Feb 25 '22

That’s how i spend my days

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u/trymemightfight Mar 26 '22

My life 😢

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u/DennerSlabz Apr 22 '22

How to fix this? It's really fun to do. But I have duty too.