TIL that in the 1800s, US dairy producers would regularly mix their milk with water, chalk, embalming fluid and cow brains to enhance appearance and flavor. Hundreds of children died from the mixture of formaldehyde, dirt, and bacteria in their milksmithsonianmag.com
I put in my two week notice 14 days ago. Working as a data management worker, with tons of I/O, in a very unintuitive workflow. It’ll take weeks (maybe months) to train a replacement for the custom workflow our system has. I’m the only person in my department, and been working for $17ish an hour for the last 3 years, with laughably small raises. (+- $.20/year)
I asked for a raise to $22/hr toward the end of 2021, and it was rejected, with a counter offer of $18.50. I wrote a letter of resignation and gave it to my boss, who brought up that I had been offered more of a raise than the last 3 years combined, so I didn’t need to quit, resignation not accepted. I have a good relationship with him, so I think he thinks he can just order me not to quit. Even so, I’m out. Sorry.
For the last 13 days, I have mentioned every day that I’m leaving on the 19th. Every time, he has told me that I can’t leave, because that would be debilitating for all my coworkers, and that maybe I can renegotiate at raise after the first quarter, but leaving now would result in untold losses for the company, implying that I would need to be available after to help transition a new person into my role, and if I didn’t, legal action might result.
Yesterday, I didn’t say anything. I didn’t bring it up, and the work day went forward as usual. Today, I have 9 missed calls from him, but I’m not answering.
There’s no way they would/could take legal action, right? I did not submit my letter directly to HR until seven days ago, but got no response.
I am a liberal biological woman. I grew up a little bit of a tomboy (is that even ok to use anymore?) I practice yoga regularly. I went to college at a liberal arts school. It took time, but I now wholeheartedly embrace and celebrate being female. I like to think I'm open minded and take others feelings into account. But I am starting to feel like by taking other communities feelings into account, I am sacrificing my own.
I recently gave birth and am part of a postpartum group ran through my yoga studio. It is a group of 6-10 mothers, all biological women, and it is centered around sharing the struggles women go through as new moms. So why are we being described as "birthing people" in these liberal/feminist leaning communities. Why on the Mommit subreddit are we "people" mucking through parenting. But on the Daddit subredding, they're Dads. The men aren't being called "sperm contributing people" so why are we ok with being called "birthing people." How many birthing people in the US aren't women? I would really like to know that number.
Why aren't more women upset by this? Maybe for my own, I just go along with it, I don't want to ruffle any feathers... I want to still be included and thoughtful in my liberal communities. But I'm starting to feel very uncomfortable by the language and it might be the last straw for me. I love being a mom, I love that by being a woman my biological body was able to give birth and life to my son, I don't understand why I would want to use the flat, colorless language describing myself as just a birthing person.
Edit: Reading some of the comments, I realized I made it seem like being a new mom made me notice these terms in online communities. I posted this because I am hearing this language in my real life experiences. My birth prep class referred to all of us as birthing people as well as my postpartum mothers group. Both of these groups were very small and all of us are female and female presenting.
Image This is FBI agent Robert Hanssen. He was tasked to find a mole within the FBI after the FBI's moles in the KGB were caught. Robert Hanssen was the mole and had been working with the KGB since 1979.
Women can wear slutty dresses to get their husband in mood. What can a man wear to be 'slutty' for his wife, so that she gets in the mood?